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What should I do about a family member I am having a problem
Hello Leah87,
Basically, I'm having a serious problem with my brother. Let me give you some background; he’s in high school and I'm in grad school. Our mother ran off when I was a pup and ever since then my father raised us both. Anyway, he doesn’t like me at all and thinks I’m a monster because he thinks I did something to her when he was younger.
Because of that, we haven’t spoken at all for last couple of years. I unconditionally love him and I’m at a loss because I don’t know what I did to him.
I spent countless hours with a ridiculously expensive therapist in NYC next to NYU where I’m attending grad school. We discussed the situation in every possible way and racked my memories for any frigging situation that may even remotely explain the mess. After a couple of thousand dollars, I gave up because I couldn’t recall anything or at least figure out why.
Right now, since my brother’s almost your age so… I’m hoping you can answer my question: What do you recommend I do?
-Distraught sis
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sorry it took so long to reply.
my brother and i went through the same thing. hes in grad school and im graduating this year.
We had some family issues and our relationship was broken down to nothing after being so close.
he reccommended we get therapy together which i refused mainly bc it was his therapist and i know she would be biased.
we were on non speaking terms for two years before he wrote me a very meaningful letter and apologized. and our relationship is now building itself back. we are still shaky but better now.
i suggest that you do the same. write him a letter that tells him how you feel. tell him that you miss your mom just as much as he does but that its neither of your faults and you can work together to overcome the neglect. it might take awhile but once he matures a little he will realize how much he actually wants that relationship with you.
good luck to you and thank you for asking me!
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