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Overseas Affair
16/F
I'll warn you in advance this may be long, but interesting. If it wasn't happening to me that is...
I met this guy, Luke, on a penpals website. Well I didn't actually meet him...but you get what I mean. Anways I sent him a letter and then we started writing, he seemed like a really interesting person and he was. He's 19 and he lives in London and I live in New York.
A year later and we were still writing each other and we had gotten to know each other really well. When my family decided they wanted to go to London for Vacation (It was just the start of my first year at Yale)I told him that, and it turns out he lived close to the area we would be visiting.
When we got there I had a hard time getting away from my parents to go see him because they didn't want me alone in a foreign place so I just told them about him and they said I could go see him as long as they met him first and I called to check in every hour.
We were in London for 3 weeks and I probably spent most of my time with him. We got really close, like really, really close. He showed me his favorite spots in London and took me to a bunch of places. He introduced me to his family, too, even though he doesn't live with them. He was so sweet, he always held the doors open for me, hugged me, once when he came to pick me up he brought me sunflowers (I think in one of my letters I said they were my favorite flowers) I told him they were beautiful and he said "So are you" and kissed my forehead.
One days before my family and I had to leave we were at his place, sitting on his bed, and I was looking at his photo's he had. We started talking and then he kissed me and then kissing turned into making out and then making out turned into...more than that. Something that starts with an S and ends in an X.
The next morning I woke up and I waws in his arms and at first I thought he was only using me. Then I contemplated the fact that I lost my virginity to him and I didn't and don't regret it at all. I got out of bed and left. 1) I was scared of what he would say when he got up. 2)My parents didn't know where I was at.
A couple hours later when I was back at the hotel he called me and wanted me to meet him at this one place, so I went. He said he wanted to be with me and that he was falling in love with me. I told him that I wasn't sure if I could do long distant relationship...I didn't even know when we would see eachother again. He told me I could go to school there, with him, and that he'd even help pay for it. (His dad owns one of the majoe companies up in North London so his family is kind of...wealthy) and he said that if I didn't want to come tom school here then he'd come to school in the U.S. I told him I had to think about it.
The thing is I really like him, I might even love him, and I even got into some schools in London, but Im scared to leave everything behind, and transfer schools if I do at the end of the semester. And if everything doesn't work out I'll be stuck in London without any family or friends...
I honestly don't know what to do, I've kept in touch with him of course, he's still waiting on my answer...I've made pro con lists and thoguht this over to death. I need advice from someone who I don't know.
So...any advice?
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ok if i where you, i wouldn't want to regret it , caue when you leave an opoortunity with someone happen its very proabble you will regret it , i think you should give it a try , go there only for one semester, see if you like it if you addapt to people and make friends , not just going thre and be stuck with him, if it doesn't work at least youll feel confortable cause you got back to new york , cause tihs way you can think like"ok it didn't work out but at least i try to make it work out"...not like being in new york probably like " what would have happen if i'd be in london?" i think its better to feel confortable eventhough if it doesn't work you dont have family in there and feel sad but hey its worse to feel like it could have been something really good for you and you didn't gave a chance , also if it doesn't work, hey at least you got the experience and got to leave in london for one semester and if you transfer school in the us probably you won't miss that semester subjects if you go to a good school in london :)
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I think you should go with your heart. You only get to live one life, and you have to make the best of it. There will always be pro's and Con's of everything you do, but in the end you have to make a decision. You're obviously a smart young women, and I am sure you deserve an adventure in your life. Good thing is you would be living in a different environment meeting new people, and being with someone that you really like. And as for being away from your friends and family, it would be hard.
No one can make this decision for you, and I only hope that you make the one you truly want. If you trust him, and believe he is right for you, then it's a great decision. If not, I would consider thinking about it a little more.
Good Luck! I really hope all goes well :D
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