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Ok i would really like some help from YOU (long distance rel
First off, I'm 17/M and she is 16/F
ok, well a few months ago, i met this girl on xbox live (internet games if you didnt kno and i didn't anticipate meeting girls) and i started talking to her and we really started to like each other. well the thing is, she had a boyfriend irl at the time that didnt really treat her how she deserves and she says that i cheer her up alot. well, soon after that, she gave me her number and we started to text alot and talk on the phone and whatnot while they were still together. well when we went on vacation (not with each other but at the same time) her boyfriend broke up with her and a week later she said she was over him. we talk everyday for at least a few hours if not more and she lives in connecticut but i live in virginia. well anyway a week after her boyfriend broke up with her, she said she was over him and that she would never go back out with him. well a few weeks after school started her ex says that he still has feelings for her and that he doesn't have those feelings for his current girlfriend. well she then tells me she also has feelings for her ex still so i dont really know what to do. Im 17/M and she's almost 16/F and i was trying to figure out a way i could meet her and we could be together. She's says that she doesn't know what she is gonna do yet but she says that if i lived in connecticut that we would have been together for a couple months now and that she wouldn't have feelings for her ex. Please help me out and give me suggestions on what i should do, and what are the best possible options for us to meet.
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Hey, well..I appreciate you asking me. Virginia and Conneticut aren't the farthest apart, you must know. The situation would've been tougher had you lived in Florida and she lived in Conneticut. So this isn't bad. Don't stress too much over the distance thing. I wanna know though. Do you guys communicate in ways other than the telephone? Such as MSN, AIM, etc? If so, this could broaden your chances. How? Well, you could become more acquainted with each other. I don't know too many details and I won't ask too many either, but from what I can tell...you probably haven't told your parents or anything. If you have, then they should at least acknowledge the fact that you're fond of someone who lives in another state. Do you know anyone else that lives in Conneticut? Maybe someone that lives closer to her? If you do, then have them meet up with her (although, this isn't the BEST thing to do)
I must suggest THIS though: Don't be too clingy with her. Don't kill yourself and think that this is BOUND to happen and that she's definitely yours. She's not. You have to face the fact. Can there be a relationship established? Yes. If you guys do something about it. You both must play your parts. Remember...there is never just ONE person. There's always more than one. And whoever, you or her ex, acts first....then she will obviously go for that person. If her parents don't know and you go over there to visit her and whatnot, I'm sure that wouldn't be a very pleasant situation for the either of you. So, let your parents know that you're 100 % serious about this, if you are..
Now, I'm sorry if I rambled..But here are MY suggestions:
1. Meet in a place closest to the both of you. You know what I mean? As in...another state. Don't meet her at her place...and don't let her travel to your place.
2. Waiting for a vacation is one of the best things to do. My boyfriend and I did just that. We met on winter vacation in another state. Beg your parents to take you to another state for vacation. A state that she can go to as well.
3. Another option is pretty drastic. But it could work. : Sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel. Ask them to arrange a place and time to meet with her. Let her know to do the same. Let your parents talk to her parents :)
You must know one important thing though...when you turn 18, since she's younger than you, you could get in trouble with the law. Because she would be considered a minor. So it's best to try and meet as soon as possible.
While you can't keep her away from her ex..try getting closer to her instead. Just by talking and communicating more. I'm not trying to flatter you or anything..but usually, from the people I've met with and talked to, exes rarely get back together. But I wouldn't know her situation.
I hope all turns out well...And that I at least helped somehow. Good luck :)
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