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a past relationship
me and my babys dad have been apart since july 10th september 8th he was trying to get back with me and i started being with someone else i think he was messing around also but ive seen numbers in his phone before we broke up he used to call me restricted but i dont like the person im with because hes older and boring and i still miss my sons dad even though weve had bad words and fights but he doesnt have nothing to do with me or the baby he visits his mom, dad, and siblings around the corner but none of them visit my child and hes only 7 months old he doesnt even call late night anymore does he still love us? I am 27 years old and he is 23.
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It's difficult to know what's going on in his head, but his actions are certainly not those of a loving father. For that matter, the actions of his family do not indicate that they want to have anything to do with the child either.
It seems to me that the time is due for decisive action on a number of levels. In order to safeguard this baby's future and ensure that you have a chance at happiness, a few things need to be put on the table and brought to a conclusion.
(1) Does your baby's father intend to BE a father? Does his family intend to be this baby's family? You need definite answers to those questions. If he doesn't intend to have anything to do with the baby, arrange to have his parental rights legally terminated. If he does choose to be a father, there are two investments he will need to make: time and money. There is no middle ground, not when it comes to raising a child. He is either involved, or he is not. And if he does not intend to be involved with his child, then he is not involved with you either. End of story.
(2) It's a little difficult to tell who you suspect of messing around or who's calling you restricted or much of anything else - please try to write more clearly (separate sentences would help)! But, it's clear you are unsatisfied with your current relationship. I will say this - the guy you're with may be older and boring, but it would seem that he's willing to help you raise a baby that isn't his. Mr. Young and Exciting, the baby's actual father, wants nothing to do with it. Who's the real man in this situation, and who's the irresponsible child? If you're unsatisfied with your current relationship, then work on making it better - or, make the decision to end it.
Bottom line is, you need to make some decisive moves. Decide now whether you want a reluctant "father" in your baby's life. Decide now what kind of man you want a relationship with. The longer you put these decisions off, the worse off you'll be. You are a mother now, and you have a responsibility to your child to take charge of your life.
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