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lesbian?
i have a girlfriend right now. ive been with her for 2 years. i love her to death. were both 20 years old. the thing is, shes the first girl ive been with. it doesnt matter to be because im really in love with her and i know i cant live without her. so ive been with guys all my life before her. the other night...i was at a party [she wasnt there] and this guy was all over me. he was SO CUTE. but i dont like guys. i dont think theyre bodies are attractive. just their faces i think? i have no idea! im so confused. ive been thinking about this guy all weekend. what is going on? i have no idea what to do.. i really like him. i also have a class with him a few times a week to make it a little harder for me to get him off my mind! :[
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Whether you decide to define yourself as lesbian or bisexual, the real issue here is your relationship. Do you want to be in a monogomous relationship with your girlfriend? If so, you're going to have to find a way to manage your attraction to this guy.
If you are seriously considering trying something with this guy, you'll want to think about the implications for yourself and your girlfriend. Open relationships don't work unless both people are happy with the idea, and messing around behind someone's back rarely has a happy ending.
It's totally normal to feel attracted to another person even when you are deeply in love with someone else. It's human. We can't switch off our sexuality just because our hearts are given away. This is something most people in longterm relationships need to deal with at some point, and you're the only person who can figure out what is most important to you.
I wish you the best.
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Is it just his face you're attracted to, or did you like his personality as well? He might've been all over you because maybe you vibed him that you might've been bi-sexual or maybe even gay so he assumed you were & decided to hit on you.
Since you stated that you like him, you might be bi-sexual. However, don't say that you are immeadiately. You need to give this a lot of thinking, and you need to be absolutely serious about this. Your sexual orientation is nothing to joke about. Don't come out as something unless you're absolutely positive because the more people you tell before you're absolutely sure, the harder it'll be once you realize that you're not. They'll think you're a liar, & it just won't be good.
Anyways, think about this long & hard. Once you are absolutely positive about your sexual orientation, talk with your girlfriend & see what she says. If you'd like more help, you may email me at whoaitstinaxx@aol.com and I'd be willing to give you more help. I have lots of friends who are bi-sexual & gay, so I like to think I have lots of experience in this department.
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its cool to be Bi
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