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not friends anymore
my boyfriend and i have been together a year and this past month has been really bad, we have stopped really talking and such(and yes we are intimate)but last night was homecoming and we just stood there it fely really weird, i was wondering if yall have any ideas on how we can rebuild our friendship.(breaking up is not an option) thanks :]
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You could always try laying off the physical stuff for a bit, pretending he is one of your best friends, and just saying whatever pops into your head. If it's really awkward between you, invite him to a place where there will be other (hopefully talkative) people, perhaps some mutual friends, or go somewhere with him and a group of friends that one of you is part of. They will carry a conversation and as you both join in you will be talking indirectly with each other. Since it has been a year, you could always bring up inside jokes or things that happened in the past in your relationship as a good conversation starter and as a good way to say you appreciate everything that has happened in a year. You could try emailing him, or calling him over something mundane in the hopes of sparking up a conversation. Often it actually doesn't take much to rekindle what used to be a talking relationship/friendship. Something random and even stupid sounding could break the ice and leave him thankful that you said something at all. Think of the things you have in common, and start talking about this, or just start rambling about your own life and hope he joins in. As well, if the lack of conversation really has you concerned you should mention that to him. It could be that he is the type of person that really doesn't need to say much to feel close to a person, and if you do maybe he isn't aware of this (or maybe something is genuinely bothering him?). Good luck =]
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you both should both find the time to talk... I mean, really really talk. Try to find out the reason why you two aren't really talking. try to figure out all the negatives and try to fix them. sorry I couldnt help more.
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