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did i do the right thing?
ok so me and my boyfriend went out for just over a month and on friday a dumped him because a felt like he was to serious. i was 17 when a started dating him and now am 18 and hes 23 and he keps saying he loves me and that if he could hed ask me 2 get engaged and i just thought it was all to fast and to serious for me am not ready to settle down. see what the problem is he goes o bout how much he loves me that hes talking about goin away and he sent me a suicide letter other night but hes fine hes still alive and he told me hes engaved my name in him with a knife and now a feel like crap cause ive hurt him real bad did i do the right thing by ending it? also before we wnet out we were friends and he was talking bout leaving coz all he wanted was me and kept asking me to give him a chance so a felt sort of presure into goin out with him. im worried he will do something stupid because of what he used to be like. he has told me bout his past but a dont no wether hes telling me the truth or not he hangs about with 13 year olds which a think is weird especially when hs 23 and he went out with one of the 13 year olds and slept with her when she turned 14 and he told me he never had sex with her so now am thinking has hebeen lyig to me bout everything what do you think has he been lying and did i do right thing by dumping him? sorry its so long
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if you are not ready for a seriouse relationship than you arent ready , forget his past think about your future if you are ment to be with him you will be with him in the future. i think you did the right thing he needs to understand.
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well, i dont think that it was a bad mistake at all. he was most likely lying to you. good luck
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I'm not sure if he is lying or not. It all depends on who told the other story, who told you he slept with a fourteen year old and how credible this source is, versus his word. Trust your own instinct on that.
In my own personal opinion (and you are entitled to your own opinion on this one) you did the right thing by dumping him. He was bringing you into a type of relationship that you weren't ready for. The only way for a relationship to really survive and exist in a healthy way is if the two people in it feel the same way about it. Don't feel guilty about him attempting suicide, or harming himself, because while as a friend you should probably look out for him in these types of situations, you do not owe him anything and you certainly do not owe him a relationship that you are not ready for. You shouldn't give into pressure to be in a relationship at all unless it is something that you want for you and not to make the other person happy.
No, it is not normal that he hangs around with thirteen year olds. But it is more serious that he is thinking of attempting suicide. As a friend concerned for his life, you should do whatever you can (while respecting yourself and your own personal boundaries) to see that he gets help.
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