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i dont know why im holding back =/
13/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a month now, and we still havn't kissed. We've made out before we were going out at a party, but since we've been dating we havn't.
It's really weird because we spend a lot of time together and we're comfortable around each other but I just can't bring myself to make that move and kiss him, and he hasn't tried to kiss me either.
When I met him around six months ago I thought he was the most amazing person I had ever met, and would ever meet, but he was in love with someone else, and it made me so depressed. However, I figured I could be friends with him, but now, I'm worried I became too close friends with him, maybe too comfortable around him.
Usually when you start dating someone you get that anticipation and you don't want them to see you without makeup and things like that. But in those six months, he became one of my closest friends, and I'm worried that that's why it's not working now.
I don't feel as strongly for him as I used to either.
Also I have very little experience and I think that's worrying em too.
I just don't know what to do, any ideas?
Thanks in advance, xxx
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You should talk to him. Ask him if he still wants to be with you. if he does, then always keep your face close to his. you never know, you may get lucky ;)
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Don't worry so much about it. It could be that you are just getting comfortable with each other but the whole attraction without actually knowing the person thing is wearing off. It could also be that you are drifting towards the friends zone (which is what you are worried about, am I correct?). Either way, both are not terrible things. Be natural around him like you already are and don't feel like you should be kissing or like you have to kiss. You really don't have to if you don't want to, or if it's going to be uncomfortable. Not kissing, even in a relationship, is really okay. Besides, a month isn't really a huge amount of time, and like you said, you are getting to know each other. The best relationships are based more on this and less on the physical parts of dating, appealing as they may seem. In these relationships, people are truly comfortable with each other, and one thing that really keeps people together, after the passion is gone and it's just two people in love, is the friendship. Don't think that the fact that you actually are friends with the guy you are dating is a bad thing. It would be bad if you were only friends, but the fact that you know how to be friends with each other only adds to the relationship.
If you are really worried (though you probably don't have to - I mean, even in the worse scheme of things he becomes your friend instead of your boyfriend which isn't the worst that could happen), you could always try to be more touchy feely with him in general. It might be too much pressure where you either kiss him or don't kiss him but you can't do anything in between. Tease him but let him know you're kidding by smiling, and maybe touch him lightly when you tease him. Hold his hand, or put your arm around him. Try giving him a hug. You don't want to do anything that feels out of character, but being physically closer to him and breaking the touch barrier helps if it is kissing that you want.
Experience shouldn't be an issue; you are 13 and a lot of people start getting any sort of experience later than that.
Just enjoy being with him; that's the whole point of having a boyfriend in the first place.
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