|
Love (preferably answered by guys)
I have a friend who I shall call Jon. I really REALLY like him, despite my constant reasoning that I don't want to like him. I am in the process of eliminatining my reasoning to embrace my affection. I want to know if there's any way to fall OUT of love with him, or a really good way to make him love me back. I have a lot of pride (not vanity, there's a difference, it's the fact that pride is what you think of yourself, and vanity is what you want others to think of you) and don't often fall so far for someone. I keep thinking that if I ignore how I feel, it'll go away, but it doesn't seem to work. Any help?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
ygsgirl's answer is spot on. You cannot simply fall out of love, you can only wait for the feelings to fade away.
The only thing you can do is to create an environment that makes it easier for you to move on. I can say from personal experience, that it is considerable harder to have the feelings go away if one keeps in close contact to the person in question. Now, I have no idea if the two of you go to the same school or whatever, but you need to minimise the times you have to see and talk to him.
Another thing, as mentioned in the answer below, is to meet and socialise with other boys. The more you can distance yourself from this guy, and the more you expose yourself to the possibility of meeting someone else, the quicker its going to be.
Overcoming a strong feeling, particularly a powerful one like love, is very difficult. However, it is most certainly not impossible despite the fact that it may seem that way now.
Good luck.
]
I'm not a guy, but I can't sit here and allow you to get no answers to your question.
Ok, listen- NO. There is no way to make him love you back. You can't change his feelings any more than you can change the past.
I can't tell you how to fall out of love with him other than you giving it time to pass. You can't just change your feelings any more than you can change his.
The only thing I can tell you is to try to continue to ignore your feelings for him. Maybe find another guy to go out with?
There is nothing wrong what so ever with falling for someone. Yes, you may have a lot of pride, but having feelings for another is what makes us human.
Yes, sometimes being a human hurts, especially when we love someone we don't want to or when we love someone who doesn't love us back. That part sucks, but it happens from time to time. The only thing to do is wait for the feelings to fade, which will in time.
I don't know that I helped, but I hope I did. :)
ygs-29/f
]
More Questions: |