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my friend is scareing me
my best friend used to be in our group but then she left us for all these gothic kids. she denys being gothic. today at school she wore all black and dark purple. her friend started talking to me and he was sayin ew omg shes so gothic and she cuts why are you her friend. i was so embarassed i looked at her and her other friend just stared at me and he said why are you acting so happy! and her friends do kinda give me chills in this class ther was her 2 guys and a girl of her friends. she never usually takes any shit from people shed stand up for her self and her friends usually do to. but she sat there peeking smiling. after class she said o what a friend to me and i thought she was talking about me. was this like a setup? we were talking yesterday about our old group and she sounded kinda mad. she said i act like i dont know her at school. could she have told her friends. im still in it but i feel like an outcast with out her. but she seems so much happier around these friends. whats with her always being with guys well and girls and what happened im just confused? her friends accept me and she keeps me safe if im around them i have a soft heart shes a great friend but what am i? well im 14 girl shes 13..girl lol shes been my best friend my whole entire life but i gues i do tell my other friend their my best friends.. shes been with thoes friends for over a year. plus all her away messages are depressive that she writes or their song lyrics with cutting and death! what do i say to her what should she do.
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What you need to do is have a talk with her in which you will decide whether or not you want to continue being an active friend with her. Since you are her friend and you are concerned about her you need to share your feelings and fears with her. Have a talk with her and let her know how you feel. Tell her what you think of her new friends and her new identity. Warn her that even if she isn't the stereotypical goth, she will be viewed as such and everybody will think that she is doing all kinds of terrible things. What matters more isn't who you are, it's how you present yourself to others. Only you can see who you are inside. Everything you will get in life is through other people. If other people don't take you seriously and judge you negatively, you're never going to get anywhere. Plus, if she keeps up this act of hers, she could become the stereotypical goth especially if she's hanging out with people that are. She'll be really influenced by that. How is she expressing herself by acting just like other people? And how is wearing a certain type of clothing expressing oneself? It just makes her look ridiculous. Who she is isn't defined by what she wears, it's defined by what she does, what she knows, and who her friends are. It sucks, but that's how it is. Try to talk her out of what she's doing through your concerns. If she won't listen to you, stop being an active friend to her. What I mean by that is, she'll still be your friend but you won't be talking or hanging out with each other. You'll care about her like a friend does and you'll be there for her, but you won't have the day to day friendly contact that active friends do with each other. If she does take what you say to heart, that's great. Keep encouraging her to truly be herself instead of conforming to a silly category. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you can convince your friend that there's more to life than what you wear. <3
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