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in a pickle.
im very deep in a pickle. ok ill try to make this short, but we know how that goes. i was with this guy for 14 months. we were very much in love we could sware up and down we were going to be together forever. i still think so. he was a great boyfriend. however, there was a lot of stuff that made the situation extremely difficult and one-sided for me. several times i considered taking a break so i could just breath and have a little fun ya know. but i never did. finally, at the start of school, i met this guy who i started to kind of like. something else was coming up that would make things between my boyfriend and i even more difficult and one sided, so i finally called a break. it was sooo painful and broke both our hearts in half, but i think it was for the best right now. this was roughly 2 weeks ago. this new guy confessed he liked me so were "talking" and flirting i guess however i want nothing more than casual dating with him [nothing serious] and i was planning on gettin back with my boyfriend in the future. the problem is, now that 'something else' happened and our situation will be much worse off than it was before, and i feel that because of that, itd be useless to get back together with him, because it was the reason i called a break in the first place. on the other hand, i cant imagine living the rest of my life without him. i know its kind of hard to understand given i dont give much info about the situation, but the whole thing was just extremely stressful for me and even my mom didnt like me to be in that situation. i have no problem casually seeing this other guy for awhile just so i can breath a little bit, but i just dont know what to do about the rest. any good, mature advice would be appreciated...
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Okay heres the thing, this first guy who you really liked and really liked you is probably really hurting. It's not going to make things much better if you keep dating this other guy casually. In away your leading one guy on and almost using him and leaving another guy heart broken. You should break up with the casual guy and get back with the real lover guy immediatly. Mending a serious relationship after ending it is hard work and although he'll take you back it will be hard for him so be prepared but if you really love him then everything will eventually go back to normal and things will be fine. Hope that helped :)
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Hi. I think you should be friends with both of the guys. It seems like you are stuck. That's what happened to me awhile ago. I broke up with my boyfriend because I liked someone else. He got a new girlfriend and the other guy only liked me as a friend. I think you should stay friends with your old boyfriend so you stay connected. You should be friends with the other guy too just to show him you like him too. After that IDK, whatever you think you should do will be good, but I think you can be connected to both of them. I donno if this will be any help but oh well. I know love sucks and it's hard so I am tryin to help!!! yep. bye.
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Your casually seeing this other guy will probably escalate into something else (it always does), and this other guy you're with will be a thing of the past.
You may not want to accept the fact you're moving on, however you've already started.
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