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No self-esteem
13/f 7th grade, I have no self-esteem. I'll tell you the reason why too. I moved from Indiana to Kentucky. It started out there. I was the new girl, getting to know everyone. My mom had just started dating this new guy right after her divorce. I met his daughter, Alison Jones aka the bitch. At first I thought she was a really good person, nice friendly. We started to go to the same school and I got on her softball team. Well this was about 3 years ago when it started. I thought she was my friend. But this shows that you can't trust anyone very well. She started spreading rumors. I don't know what she said, but no one would talk to me. The new girl. Its hard being the new girl because everyone is supposed to be friendly right? Nope. Half the time, if the teacher told anyone to sit by me, they wouldn't do it. And if they did, they insulted me. calling me ugly and stupid. After a while, I couldn't deal with it. I actually started to believe that I was ugly and stupid. My grades fell behind....and I didn't have any friends. EVen talking about it makes me wanna cry, which is what I'm doing. I started thinking suicidle. But I finally met one of my closest friends and she put a stop to it. But there is still damage. I have self-esteem left in my body. Not one ounce. I just moved to Oklahoma. I new start. It's great. But I still think about it and I have no self-esteem. The bright side, everyone likes me for my bright personality. Not letting my other personal stuff get in the way. I have no Idea how to get all my self-esteem back. Someone plz hep me.
P.S. sorry it was so long.
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Well, Self esteem comes from first of all believeing in your self. Words of wisdom: DOn't lower your self because your scared of what people will think. Bring high expectations and be proud of who you are. Believe it and your spirit and body will do like wise.
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no your question wasnt to long, i've wrote,and read alot longer. well its good that seeing how you moved to oklahoma you're doing alot better now. thats real good. this is how i look at it. what happened is in the past. not a thing you can do about it. it was just a chapter in your life that left a slight bitter taste in your mouth. (i know the feeling.) the only thing i can tell you, is don't let it get to you. figure it like this, when you have a problem your going through, lets say idk, your boyfriend breaks up with you. or w/e. just for a moment think back to what happened, and say" if i lived through that, what ever lies ahead i've already won." think of it like that. don't let other people tell you how to run your life, thats between you and God. nobody else. and if the people at your new school like you, FOR YOU, then more power to you. just keep doing what you're doing. don't change just to get people to like you. lord no, thats not any good. well that was kinda long, but i belive it'll help you. need anything else, just yell.
-God bless
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Well, for starters, allow what everyone thinks of you at your new school to boost your self esteem. Everyone likes you for who you really are.
Don't allow what the kids at the other school thought affect you. In fact, when ever someone thinks low of you, don't let what they think affect you, either.
You know you are better than all that. That is all that really matters in this world.
As for the whole rumor spreading, name calling, and insulting remarks? That is all just a bunch of kiddie high school BS. If they want to act juvenile, that is their own downfall. (That includes Alison Jones aka the bitch.) You are better than all that.
I know, I know. It's hard to see it that way because you are in school and the like, but that is how I got through all the same crap when I was your age.
People didn't like me for no reason. They did the same crap to me. I just got fed up and decided that what they say or think doesn't matter one iota to me. If they don't like me, that is their own loss and their own too bad.
I realized 'Why should I let the opinion of others dictate how I go about my life? Why should I let the opinion of others dictate my happiness?'
Make sense? Because, really, ask yourself these questions realizing that those other kids made these opinions of you based off of RUMOR. They made these judgments without even knowing a damn thing about you.
Well, they are out of your life now, so you have your fresh start, and sounds as though you got off on the right foot this time around.
Keep your chin up. Those jerks aren't worth taking your self esteem away.
Hope that made some sort of sense. :)
ygs-29/f
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I'm really sorry you had to go through that. You seem to be a very genuine good person and anyone would be lucky to be your friend. If you believe you can achieve your self-esteem back, you'll just have to reassure the fact that you really want to be happy..FOR YOU. The people who call you names and tease you, what are they going to be to you in 20 years? If you can't love yourself first, no one else can. Surround yourself with the people and things you love first. I hope this helped you some :]
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