|
what to do with feelings?
So I'm not sure if this will make sense or whatever but okay.. So I currently have a boyfriend whom I've been with almost 5 months.He's amazing and I'm not planning on breaking up with him anytime soon.I dated a couple guys who I believe I still have feelings for.Is that bad or acceptable if I don't intend on having a (relationship) with.I don't talk to my ex at all anymore.He's in college, doing his thing.I think that's the best because It's been very hard trying to get over him, But anyways.. my ex ex , he's a senior I believe or junior.. I don't know anymore.. I dated him end of freshmen year.Which I'm currently a junior.So that was quite a bit of time ago.I just realized I have "lil" feelings for him basically because everytime I bump into him in the hallways.. i get this weird feelings,But he's a friend.He gives me a hug and messes with me and what not. I don't have any intentions of flirting with him or go any further.I just don't know what to do with those feelings.Just let it go.Even if it's been forever.I just hope if he goes to Homecoming and I go as well, with my boyfriend.. that it isn't awkward and boyfriend be concerned.Anyone have any suggestions?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
First off, in most states and countries, you are in the clear at 16. You should check the laws of your state, but at 16 you can likely have sexual contact with anyone you choose.
Alright, back to the actual question...
It is my opinion that we carry some sort of feelings for every person who touches are lives in significant ways. It can't really be helped. I still have feelings from my very first relationship (which happened about 8 years ago) and were she to met someone I'm currently dating, it would still be a bit awkward, although warm and friendly too.
That is just life. You can't close the heart completely to one who touched it once. You shouldn't try.
The only real questions you need to ask yourself are: "Are these feelings interfering with my current relationship?" and "Are these feelings harming me somehow?"
If your baggage isn't damaging or limiting your current relationship, and your feelings are not causing your extreme pain or making you depressed or obsessive, I would say they are completely normal and fine.
You have chosen the person you want to be with. You are devoted to him right? Everyone has feelings or crushes on people outside their relationship from time to time. That doesn't make the relationship weaker, in fact it makes it strong. You are a stronger mate when you look at others and go "Yeah, there was/is something there, but my boyfriend is one I really want to be with."
Don't worry so much.
]
It's perfectly normal to have feelings for ex's and those feelings will probably always be there. As long as you have no intentions of dating them again than your boyfriend should have nothing to worry about. You're always going to feel something for your ex, but you know that it's over between the two of you and you're currently in a good relationship. Just make sure to reassure your boyfriend of how much you like him and don't worry abou anything else. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. P.S. You can't do anything about the way you feel or the way someone makes you feel, so don't feel guilty about having some feelings for an ex, it's beyond your control.
]
More Questions: |