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Prejudiced Parents
I have these two friends, Jessie and Kelsey, who have gotten to be like best friends. The problem is, Kelsey is black, and Jessie's parents are really prejudiced. They won't let Kelsey come to their house, or let Jessie go to Kelseys. They won't even let Jessie go anywhere with Kelsey. So whenever Kelsey wants to do something, Jessie has to make up excuses why she can't. And now Kelsey is starting to wonder whats wrong. She thinks Jessie doesn't really like her or something. And Jessie is really upset and doesn't know what to do. She wants to tell Kelsey the truth, but she's afraid it will really hurt her feelings and ruin their friendship. Plus she's really embarrassed about her parents being so prejudiced. But if she keeps making up excuses, Kelsey will think that Jessie doesnt want to be her friend, or maybe even think that its Jessie who's prejudiced. So what should she do? And please don't say she should talk to her parents, because she's already done that and they aren't going to change.
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Jessie needs to be honest with Kelsey. If Kelsey is smart- she shouldn't be hurt by Jessie saying it. Sure, she can totally be upset at Jessie's parents- but Kelsey can't be mad that Jessie isn't with her. Jessie can't help that her parents have these rules. Yes, they aren't fair, I agree with you.
Should Jessie decide to not tell her, well tell her to kiss her friendship with Kelsey goodbye. Kelsey has a right to know- and keeping something like that from her is just wrong.
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I wish i knew the ages of these two people. because depending on that, I would tell Jessie to stand up to her parents and call them out on them being racist. It frustrates me because of the social construct of racism in this society. I think Jessie should try her best to hang out with Kelsey, come up with something they can mutually agree on doing (or somewhere they can go) together until Jessie is old enough and brave enough to stand up to her parents. If Jessie and kelsey are really close, jessie can open up to kelsey about her parents, and tell kelsey how much he is against their ideas of blacks. It might strengthen the relationship rather than hurt it.
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