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best frnd/family probs
ok i put my best friend as front of a lie to save my own butt from my super extreme parents... i mean i wouldn't have done it if i knew they'd understand that i learned from my mistake... but they won't they will make sure i suffer (that includes removing all my college funds and giving it to my little brother). anyway... well i am 18/f .... and i went to a party with some friends in college... and i emailed my best frnd who's in a different college... the email got to my brother... he told ... and i sed it was a lie i made up to empress my best friend and none of it is true... (but she's not like that! she knws who i am better than they do!) anyway... so they freaked and sed she's bad influence and now i can't talk to her at all... (well they can't stop me) but she's not welcome at home anymore and my fam just don't look at her the same... although she is totally the opposite and she's even more decent than i am .... i am so mad at my rat brother.. coz he keeps snooping and using weired things like "keylogger"?!? anyway he's a different story...
i don't know what to do... she is really hurt that i did this but she totally gets why i had to (trust me she's not a doormat if she didn't like it she would have gone straight to my fam and told them the truth... its not that... she just knows how extreme my parents are... and why i am always at her house when we were in school). i know i sound mean... but i swear i wud have done the same for her! but when it comes to my fam ... i really can't stand up against a tyranny...
so how do i fix things without damaging things?? i mean i don't think what i've done was soooo bad. i learned my lesson... i was just tempted by this sudden taste of freedom... it just sounds that bad i swear. (to the parents who don't let me go to after school activities coz they worry i'll get raped)....
i really don't want her image to falter into the bad because of me and in the same time i don't want to loose my college opportunity.. i'm already giving up so many privileges after that incident (thats when they are convinced i hadn't done anything!) including going out and stuff... there is just this one thing i need to fix and i'll be alright until i am financially independent from them.... :S so what should i do?!?!?
don't say the truth it wont work.. i need a plot... a convincing plot....
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Well, you're right. The truth probably wouldn't work. Not now, anyway. Maybe you could have skated with it if you'd come clean earlier but now you've told too many lies. That's what happens when you lie, though, you know? Best reason I know of not to do it.
It seems like what you are really concerned with is the fact that your best friend isn't allowed around you anymore and that your family thinks she's a bad person, etc. You could possibly say you thought she'd be impressed because she's NOT like that, and usually neither are YOU, so you thought she'd think that you were being adventurous by going to a college party (which, as you've told the parents, was a lie), even though it was a lie. You know, like "Well, Mom, SHE'S so strait-laced and I'M so strait-laced that I figured she would think I was cool or something, since I did something so off the wall that she would never even think of doing. It was stupid and I'm sorry!" Like that.
Honestly, there really is no good answer for this. A plot is not going to work for this one. There's really no way to explain it, other than possibly what I said above. Your brother busted you out cold. And by the way, what he did is a real invasion of privacy. You should make a bigger deal about that. He has no right to go into your stuff like that, whether you were doing anything wrong or not.
Hope this helps!
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