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Should I dump him??
f/16. I got myself into a bit of trouble..
Theres this guy at school who is completely head over heels in love with me, I don't feel the same way about him. He asked me out a few weeks back and I told him to wait until i know what I want, He put a lot of pressure on me and he made me feel really sorry for him and he tells me beautiful things but I just don't feel anything for him apart from lust. Anyway, 2 days ago he asked me to please be his girlfriend and I don't know what the hell I was thinking but I said yes. He's so unbelieveably happy and he said I'm the best and most beautiful thing that has ever happened to him. When people at school found out today I got a really hard time and I got teased by a few people (I knew I was in for that) and I really don't know what to do. One of my friends said I have to dump him. And that I can';t let it go on any further if I don't love him. I have told him that I loved him back but I just wish I didn't ... What am I going to do?! I feel horrible, I just don't know if I should dump him... he feels so much for me. And if I do I think he would cut himself or worse. Possibly suicide. I don't know how I have gotten myself into this situation. I wish more than anything I didn't say yes. And if I should dump him how do I do it? Please someone help me.
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Hey, myname is Em231 I think I can help you ok
I have a few things you have to do to break with him
but first your friend is right if you don't love him thats a sucky realationship . Here is some tips read them and I say do them( no pressure).
1.first breath chill out hoeny everything will ok .
2. Don't act mean when you tell him then he will freak out.
3.If you are nevous breath in and out twice It will help.
4. Then tell him this "his name I'am sorry I told
you I can be your girlfriend but i don't have the same feelings for you that you have for me I'am very sorry.
5. This you might not want to do but he willlike this give him a big hug and say but we can be best friends .I hope I helped
Em231
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Yes, you should dump him.
You should dump him just the way you'd dump anyone else. Tell him you are sorry but you just don't want to be with him.
Then tell a school counselor or teacher what has happened.
I say tell an adult, because if you are afraid he is going to do something as phenomenally stupid as hurt himself, you MUST tell an adult.
It's not your responsibility to stay with him, but it is your responsibility to tell an adult if his behavior gets out of control. Frankly, his behavior is already out of control, obsessive and sounds a tad controlling. He needs help.
Dump him and tell an adult that he needs help. That is the all you owe him and the best you can do for him.
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all you have to do is tell him i did the same thing you did it was dis boy who liked me but i did not like him i said ya i would be his girlfriend i could not let that get too too far so i told him like we need to talk cause i can't do dis much longer he was like what i told him us he ask me what do i mean i told him we should be friends he ask me y did i say i wanted to go wit him i told him like i did not mean to say ya so you know i hurt him but not that bad i told him before it got to far will you got to do the same even if he said all the cute thing to you so let him down slow
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You have to break up the relationship with him because you'll just be hurting him more by letting him keep thinking more illusions,apologize to him, that you never meant to hurt him like this,that you just wish to be friends only,you ask for his forgiveness,so you can not have your conscience bothering you until you get his forgiveness.Tell him that there will be another girl who will be able to correspond to him,his life his very valuable,you don't want him to do anything crazy but, to try to understand that you made a mistake,you never intended for this mistake to go further.Hopefully he understands.
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ok ok first to be in a relationship it doesnt require "loving" someone especially right off the bat. If you like him then try to stay with him but definetly have a gooooood talk with him, tell him hes moving to fast for ur liking and itd be better not to do or say things that he doesnt mean. tell him how it makes u feel when he says those things. If you dont like him then talk to him and tell him hes a little "too much" for right now and you've got a lot going on with school but say in the future i can see us working out but not for right now. as for the sucide thing, you cannot control that and it is out of your hands. id probably still talk to the kid some nights to make sure hes alright and help with his depression but thats the best you can do for him. just follow your heart and dont let other people influence your decisions. hope i help :]
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