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is it right?
last year, i liked this guy who i had to stop liking because he was with my best friend even though i liked him first and she liked him secretly and i had to find out myself through someone else that she liked him. is it right that she's with him even though i don't like him now but i used to? and now i hate him, not really hate, but i dont talk to him a lot, not like i used to. is it right for her to still like him even though i hate him? is it right for my best friend to like him even though he was really mean to me, and she knew it? if its not right, what should i tell her? so here are my questions:
1. is it right that my best friend is with someone i like first?
2. is it right for her to like him even though he was mean to me and she knew it?
3. if its not right, what and how should i tell her? p.s she's sensitive
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1. since you dont like him anymore, she probably feels like its ok, but if you feel like its not tell her.
2. if hes nice to her, she probably doesnt believe you when you say hes mean to you. this happened with me and my bestfriend, her boyfriend was an asshole to me, he even physically hurt me but she didnt care cuz he was the greatest guy to her. she thought i was overexagerating. she probably doesnt see how mean he is to you which is why she looks past it and still believes hes a nice guy.
3. if you want to confront her say 'i really do love you, but it hurt me that you took this guy that i liked first and that now hes so mean to me, and that you feel like your being replaced.' just tell her that and dont blame anyhting on her if shes sensitive just ask her in a calm voice why.
hope this works
-mari :D
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Alright. This may not be what you want to hear. That never means good...
So you would agree with me in that you are your own person and you should be able to make your own decisions and it shouldn't matter how anyone else thinks, right? Well if you do- the same can apply to your friend.
She is her own person and she can make her own decisions.
1. Sure, she's your best friend, but just because you liked this guy first- doesn't mean its WRONG for her to be with him. Having a friend like someone doesn't and shouldn't make that person off-limits to the other person.
2. Yes, it is. She can like who she likes and how she wants. Its really none of her business how he treated you or whatever, and so her liking him isn't wrong JUST because you don't like him or whatever. She is her own person, as I've said- so she can do what she wants.
3. Your friend is perfectly justified with her actions- so there is nothing to tell her. And getting mad at her isn't going to solve anything.
--Jack
(15/m)
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