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Hard time keeping friends
I am a really nice person and everyone who meets me agrees. i am good at making friends but i have a hard time keeping them because i'm so shy/quiet and like to keep to myself (one time a classmate even called me antisocial). i dont know if its just me or the other person. for example, i was at this camp a month ago and met this guy that i really liked and confessed my feelings for him- but i knew nothing was gonna happen so i made almost no attempt to contact him until recently. when i did talk to him, it wasnt as big a deal i thought it would be. but sometimes i feel socially awkward. any tips of abating shyness/awkwardness when talking to ppl? its like i have anxiety/doubt that ppl wont like me anymore if they really get to know me so i dont open up. as a result, i hav no real "best friend", seldom get invited to go out to a movie or do something (partly because my parents are strict and partly because no one invites me)
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Honey I am also shy so trust me you are not alone. Its good that you could be honest with that guy about how you feel this is sumthin I could never do.
The way I get over it when I can is I force myself to talk to people wether I am scared or not.
You dont have to totally open up all you have to do is speak to your gfs about your fave bands and films and about how hot he is from that band if you get where im cumin from.
You dont gotta tell them who you like like straight away I mean I didnt tell my bf this until Id known her over a year.
Trust is prob the issue more than shyness and that needs to be earned and over time you will learn to trust people more and then you will open up more.
On the invite situation you should try maybe getting together a small group of friends and going to the flicks. Even if you tell your parents they can pick a curfew and even pick you up and they should come around to the idea.
Soz it was so long but I hope I helped and I hope you make the kind of friends you can trust.
good luck
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