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bout to get married..mistake or not?
I'm a 19 year old female and I'm getting married in a week. I love the man I am marrying I do but last week we went on a trip to meet his family for the first time. I have tried so hard to please and impress his family but sometimes it feels like nothing I do is good enough for them. At this point I don't care anymore but since we have been on this trip my fiance has been acting differently towards me. He makes fun of me which sometimes gets annoying and a lil hurtful, and he wants me to do everything for him but whenever I ask him to do something he won't do it but throws a fit when I won't do shit for him. It seems like this is a completely different man than I fell in love with. What do I do? Should I still marry him or should we take a break? please help me...
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Talk to him. He could be stressed out from the wedding, or because his family doesn't like you. Ask him what's wrong, why he's different all of a sudden. What ever you do, don't say that you won't marry him unless his attitude changes, because that will either make him very mad, or change his attitude, but change back after the wedding. Ask him if he sure he wants to do this.
You are the only one who can decide what to do. If the answers he gives you to your questions are unsatisfactory, you might as well take a break. If he seems honest and willing to change, you might again want to take a break and see how things go.
But in my opinion, it seems that the wedding and his family's behavior are stressing him out and hurting him. You are the one who knows him, and you are the only one who can make the right decision.
~Maria, 16
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Wow, its really ironic how much this sounds like me and my ex husband! I was with him for a total of 6 years and married for 3 years. His parents and sister hated my guts. I never did anything to make them dislike me. Hunny let me tell you. . . 6 years of trying to impress his family wore me down. I just gave up and let things happen. When he started choosing his family over me, I started leaning more towards divorce! As much as I loved him it hurt like hell to leave him. But he also started acting differently, in ways he had never acted before. Then I came to find out he had gotten a 15 year old pregnant. I wish I would have never married my ex. Of all people. In my opinion I think if hes not willing to give the world to you the best way he can, then you deserve much better. Dont break up, just postpone the wedding and see if he changes or not. Marriage is a big step, and its even messier to have to go through a divorce!
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i tihnk you shuold take a break because first of all hes acting different around you when hes with his parents. two your 19 years old and getting married i mean you have a lot of time left in your life and you never know who you may find
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I'm only 15, obviously, I'm not married. I'm no expert, but you sound very unsure about getting married. Follow your heart, is all that I can say. I know it sounds cheesy, but if your heart is telling you not to marry him, then don't. I think that getting married at 19 is a little too soon, don't get me wrong, love is love, but you should be spending a little more time focusing on what you want, and going out and having fun, not being settled down with a husband. If you really want to marry him, then go for it, but think about what will happen in the future, not just the present.
I think that you should take a break, maybe like a few weeks at the most, and sit down and really think this through. Do you want to get married right now? At 19? Ask yourself these questions and see where it takes you.
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If you feel like this I honestly wouldn't marry him. You guys need a some more time to make sure it's right. You don't want to get married and not even a week in you can't stand him. I'd push it off till you feel he can treat you right.
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