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starting to get scared
all my life i've been really excited to go to college. i've always wanted to move out of my house and be on my own but of course i was too young. now im going to be a junior this upcoming year and at first i was so excited about starting to plan for college but now i'm scared. i don't know how im going to manage all my classes and having a roomate who i don't know anything about and having money and a job along with studying. im afraid that i won't make friends because i don't make friends easily. i have a lot of friends now but they're the same friends i've had all my life. when i think about not being able to see my friends for months at a time it almost brings me to tears. then i start to think about after college when i'll be completely on my own and its all so overwhelming. the only thing that makes me less nervous is thinking about learning a new subject and studying what im most passionate about. that would be architecture. i'm really excited about organizing my dorm room. even if i only get to decorate half of it. i don't know how to make myself less nervous. i'm excited about the educational part of it but i'm scared about my social life which is the most important part of my life right now.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
*sorry it was so long...i have issues..lol*
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I feel the same way as you, and I'm about to go to college in three days! haha it's insane.
You mentioned how you're scared about managing your classes, well in college, you really only have two or three classes a day, sometimes only one class a day. You'll probably have more free time than you expect, as many of the assignments in college are essays and projects, not so much the busy work you get in high school. As long as you stay fairly focused you will be fine, especially considering how you are passionate about architecture.
Having a roommate you don't know can be a pain, but it can also be a great way to practice making friends. It is really tough to leave the people you've known for years, but it has to be done, all you can really do is make sure you keep in contact and meet up with old friends whenever you are all home. As for meeting new people, there are so many people who are just as nervous and scared as you, and it will probably be overwhelming, but you will meet really friendly people that you can probably become great friends with. If you are shy now, use college as a way to change and become more extroverted, if you are already outgoing, then that's great.
You also mentioned having a job and money. Now I'm not sure if every campus does this, but I'm pretty sure they do. They offer "work study" jobs, which is basically working in the dining hall or library, and what they do is they work around your class schedule. So you could end up working only a few hours a day, but that way you are not overworked and you still get some extra cash from the job.
If you are worried about not having enough money to go to school, honestly don't be. If you're going for architecture, I'm sure you're intelligent and can get scholarships, they can help a lot. Also, you will get free money from your state, your school should be able to help you with that. And when those don't cover enough, get a loan with the help of your parents. Yes you will need to pay back a lot, but that will not begin until you are done with college, and being an architect I'm sure you will have a decent income and will not struggle for money.
If you are really nervous about the social aspect, perhaps you can go to a college that is not far from your home. That's what I'm doing, and I'm actually coming home every weekend too. You will find a lot of other people who have the same feelings as you do, it's a whole new stage in your life, an important one, so the transition will be a little rough, but you will get through it and have a great experience. Just try not to be scared, things will work out. :) Hope I helped a little.
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