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How do you know when to have sex? I wanted to a few days ago because I feel as though I'm ready. I'm protected and everything. I'm comfortable with it but it just seems like my boyfriend is just coming over more often because he wants to have sex when we have the chance. He says he wants to see me and if that happens, it will. I was talking to my close friend about this. She has had experience. She said the first time she had sex with her boyfriend.. he told people. How can I trust my boyfriend with this intimate moment? I gave him a blowjob months ago and his friend asked him if I ever gave him one.. He answered.. Even after I told him just to keep these things between us. He pretty much let it slip again. But at least he's being honest with me. I was fine with it because it's just a bj. But I can't seem to trust him now. I don't think he wants to come over to see me, just to have sex.. I know he's waiting for me.. I know how it is. It's something you need to tell a guyfriend but it's worrying me a lot. I want to be able to trust him and feel safe... without hearing something that I told him from a friend. It's just not cool. Sexual or nonsexual. His mom doesn't want him to have sex until he's 18. It's just a year away basically. He said he wouldn't tell anyone because rumors might get to his brothers which would pass to his mom.
I already had a talk with him but these feelings of doubt are causing me to worry and feel sick. Sex is something serious for me. He said he loves me and that he will wait for me. He always says that he will wait. But I don't know if he truly means it. I don't know what to say either. He's coming over tomorrow and he was talking to my friend.. She told me what he said.. She asked him what we were doing and he said "Stuff ;)"
I just.. don't know where to start. Any advice.
I know if a guy can't wait for me, it's not worth it. Isn't a 6 month relationship too early for sex?
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First of all, you asking this question is your first sign of being not ready. Why? Because if you were 100% ready, which you should be to have sex, you would not have asked this question. You also said that you aren't sure if you fully trust your boyfriend & you know that he wants to come over to have sex. He should want to spend time with you, not come over & just have sex. You have to be able to trust your boyfriend 100%. There shouldn't be any doubts in your mind. Why? Because sex is a huge step in a relationship. It is not something to just do & get it over with. It's really a big issue in a relationship. You don't know if you're going to be together forever or even get married. A lot of people don't really care. They live for the moment & were ready to have sex at that moment, but what people don't realize is that there's a lot of negative effects that can come out of it. You guys could have sex & break up days later. He could tell almost everyone such as your friends, his friends, etc. He should probably respect his mother also. That way if he does have sex & she finds out, he could lose her trust & you might be affected by it. She may not trust you as much either because neither of you listened. You also have to realize the consequences. Pregnancy, STDS, etc. are real issues that so many people face, especially teens. Religion is also another issue in having sex before marriage. Make sure you use protection if you do decide to have sex & also realize that nothing but abstinence is 100% effective. Go through these issues with him & talk to him about it. You'll know when you're ready. Don't be afraid to not have sex though. It wouldn't be a bad thing & it would be understandable. If he isn't accepting of that, then he isn't in it for the relationship.
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Well the time comes when the time comes. If he says that he will wait for you then take your time and don't just do it because you are protected, do it because you want to and if you love him.
If you trust him enough to know that he will really wait for you and let you take your time, then it probably means that he loves you to.
You will know if he really means that he will wait for you or not if you say your not ready and he answers "okay, we will do it when your ready."
If you are ready, make sure you trust him, love him, and have a good relationship with him. Don't let any guy push you to do anything you don't want to do. Also, don't do it just because you think it will make him happy. Do it when your ready. If he won't wait for you, you don't deserve him. Good luck!
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