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I've always laughed at people who had "online relationships" or any significant interaction with the opposite sex. My sister had a 2 year relationship with a guy she met online, and they HAVE met in person a few times. My point is that I was totally against it and I kinda feel bad 'cause i ended liking someone i haven't even met.
I guess i can say it's different cause i didn't search for him online or anything. He liked my friend (they met online). I was always the middle-man (woman?) always three-waying them on the phone and letting them talk and have them hang up whenever. She'd even tell me to go online and talk to him for her if she had no access to the computer. This went on for a like, a month.
Well I've always known my friend had a fake side, actually, she was starting not to be my friend at that time but i still dealt with her, even when not many people liked her either. But then I knew something wasn't right. so I decided to IM the guy she liked (Jake) and asked him a few questions. I asked "so what does Kiara tell you about herself?" and all that. And what he said shocked me. The way she portrayed herself was a whole different person.
Time went on, and he stopped liking her 'cause he hated liars; "constant" liars. so we just started to talk as friends and from then, we just kept talking. Usually; with the guys here where I live; i get tired of them too easily and they get annoying really fast. So one night when Jake was talking; he managed to hurt my feelings, and bring my mood back up in the time span of 10 seconds. No guy has done that before. He can get really annoying but for some reason, I still liked talking to him.
So time went on and we talked regularly on the phone, and AIM and all that. But I get too paranoid 'cause he HAS liked other girls he's met online and he still talks to them. I don't think it's right to get jealous since he IS single. But i guess its just natural girl instincts to do so. So he's in California visiting whoever (I happen to live in California) and he's gonna be visiting North Carolina where a girl he used to like online lives.
SHOULD I BE JEALOUS? SHOULD I MOVE ON? I decided at one point to avoid talking to him completely but that failed. I get so jealous thinking he's on the phone with somebody else. He even admitted that there was a girl Vanessa he used to like A LOT he almost thought it was love. I AUTOMATICALLY HATE HER. I don't think this is healthy for me to mope over some guy I met online. Rereading what I typed, i sound like some sick over emotional girl. Should i just try and get over him? Since there is no point in chasing something that'll never happen.
I doubt anyone would read this whole thing and answer, but that's okay. Typing it all out for a few someones to see really helped. Thanks in advance?
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Well we all get jealous when the person we like/love is talking to another girl or likes another girl have you told him how you feel about him ? maybe if you do he won't talk about girls or tell you how much he likes them and he may end up liking you.
And if you want to loose feelings for him,like you said his just a a boy you met o the net well just delete him or block him and dont talk so much to him.If he talks to you first then talk just not as much.
Try talking to other people it might help you get your mind off things.
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Hi. I'm sort of in a similar situation as you are. The guy I talk to online has got me wrapped around his finger. He can change my moods in SECONDS and he too has lots of girlfriends online that he constantly talks to and communicates with. It drives me nuts too. Any girl he talks about makes me automatically hate her. Even if I don't know her. I, too, am confused about it. You're probably asking yourself right now "what is wrong with me? Why am I so upset over a guy I met online? Why does he [sometimes] control the way I feel?" I can't really think of an answer for you about this. It's hard not to talk to him. Trust me, I've tried it. The only thing there is to do...is to imagine him, as some worthless guy you met online, who can be 90 years old, for all you know...providing false information and probably masturbating to pictures of girls he meets online. That makes *ME* feel somewhat better about the situation I'm in. I don't know if this has anything to do with you though....are you physically attracted to him? do you think it's romance? or is this guy just so nice to you that he gives you a lot of attention? If it is that, try to think of him as a pedophile. And limit your time chatting with him. Try to see what kind of person he is...because he WONT stop talking to so many girls...and he won't stop messing with your feelings - YOU have to do something about it. You either can
a. Delete him from your mind, address book, and contact list
or b. Limit your time talking to him.
There are, of course, other possible choices.
Why are you "tormenting" yourself over him so much? For all anybody knows, you could be the LAST thing on his mind. And wasting all your thoughts on him for no reason.
I really hope I helped and my advice was higher than a 1 rating..I wish you the best. And I want it to work out for you, since I'm in a similar situation..=] If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to e-mail me.
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