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I'm the kissing misadventure girl.
Although I really found your advice helpful, I wanted to ask a follow up question, if you don't mind.
Theres sort of a problem with not loading this kiss down with emotional baggage. My friend, whom I'd really like to throttle, decided to take it upon herself to inform him of my not so delightful past. Luckily for me he was extremely sweet and understanding about the whole situation. Told me how he'd never deny me anything and wouldn't force me to do anything either, told me he'd wait for as long as it takes (which sounds cliched but I'm not complaining) and wouldn't mind showing me a thing or two along the way.
Now thats just all fine and dandy in the word since, but now he's less...touchy. I mean we weren't members of the PDA club before or anything. But he doesn't lean in and whisper to me anymore, or put his arm around me etc etc. And when asked he said he didn't want to make me feel pressured that I had to do something. The thing is, I want to do something. I'm totally comfortable with him and I know he wouldn't push me away if I was the worst kisser on earth...which I probably am the only female who didn't inheritate the natural know how. And since I'm not very good at these things I'm too afraid to attempt to make a move on him....
Any advice? And please don't tell me to straight up tell him I want to jump him....that would be horribly embarrassing and I just couldn't.
Sorry to be an annoyance,
and thanks again.
Kayleigh
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Alright, I recind my "talking to him" advice. Arent friends fun?
Two ideas:
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Sit him down and talk to him. Hes more than likely under the impression that your friend spoke up because you personally had an issue and thought he should know he was making you uncomfortable. Thus, hes being cautious. You can tell him you want to jump him without being so obvious about it.
Word it more like "I really enjoyed the casual physical contact and I miss it. You dont have to be so careful around me, Im not going to break"
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Give him signs other than that. Pull his arm around you. Whisper in his ear the same way he whispered in yours. Do the things you liked him doing to you. Casually, without saying much of anything. If he asks you anything about it, tell him you're comfy with him with that level of physical intimacy. Its a good way to give him what amounts to blatantly obvious signs that you are interested.
The next part I pulled from the movie "Hitch", but it works. Well.
If you want a kiss, and you want it to happen, and you dont want to have to attack him, find an opportunity where you want to go for it.Lean in. Go 90% of the way, and hold, waiting for a kiss. Wait as long as you have to, for him to get the message and come the other 10%.
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