AskAwayyy answered Sunday August 12 2007, 10:09 am: Oh, this is quite the tricky one. Its hard falling for a friend and not knowing how to figure out how they feel. I agree with ComplexMind on the fact that you shouldn't come out and outwardly tell the girl you like her. Try something subtle. Flirtation might not always be enough though, I hang around with LOADS of guys, more guys than girls, and I use the fact that I'm female to get my way with them all the time; does it mean I like them? Of course not. So you're going to have to hint a little stronger than just lite flirtation. Have you ever read the book "I Can't Tell You" and no, thats not me being idiotic and saying I can't tell you the name of this book, but thats actually what the piece is called. But anyways, its about this boy who decides to stop talking and turns to writting notes. During the story he falls for his good girl friend and is too afraid to tell her, and she starts to date another guy. When he finally gets up the courage to let her know how he feels she says she returns the feelings but that shes happy in the relationship with the other guy...its really saddening. A cool thing you could do to hint at this friend is to pick up this book, read it yourself (its a REALLY good read), and then pass it onto her. When doing so add that the story reminds you of your relationship, just offhandishly remark this before she starts reading. Perhaps she'll pick up on the clue.
And yes, I've used that. I've given the book to a good male friend. He ended up returning the feelings. Did we date? No because we decided we were too good of friends, best friends actually, but for about six months it was just like dating but without calling it such. It was fantastic.
If you don't want to take a route similar to this one. I'd suggest having another friend offhandishly question her about it. "Hey, I noticed you and so-and-so are getting pretty tight. You two have a thing or something?" She'll probably chuckle and wave it away, but if you're in close proximity when it happens and you look at her face, I guarantee you'll be able to know how she really feels. Theres always a glimpse of a woman's inner self right before she slaps on her poker face.
ComplexMind answered Sunday August 12 2007, 5:36 am: Just be careful, if you value the friendship more than a potential relationship, I wouldn't take any sudden measures.
Just be patient, be her friend, but give off hints that you wouldn't mind being more.
If she gives off enough hints that she wants to be more, you're in. But you have to wait until you're absolutely sure.
It's tricky with good friends because you don't want to ruin the friendship and if she doesn't feel the same way it will be awkward.
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