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my ex won't leave me alone
I am a female. I was dating this guy for a couple of months. a couple of weeks ago he broke it off with me and said that he needed to concentrate on his relationship with God and find himself. I told him that I respected him taking time to go through this process and to have a good life. He commented that he wanted to be friends and I told him that I couldn't it would be weird. We are neighbors, so we run into each other all of the time. However, he calls me and comes to my door all of the time. To make it worse, we have mutual friends that invite us to dinner parties and we don't really want people to know what's going on, so we have to pretend that nothing has changed. Basically, I stayed away from him for two days and couldn't say no to his advances and now we continue the physical part of our relationship, but make it known that we are not a couple. This hurts me, but I am at the point where I am depressed and sad, but when I hear from him or see him I am okay. How do I get away from him?
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Wow, the friends with benefits or in your case neighbor with benefits is not working for you if it is depressing you. The sex is just a distraction, but leaves you feeling worse every time. Stop it. Tell him that "love thy neighbor" is not loosely translated "boink thy neighbor" and that he should find spiritual awakenings with someone else. Now for the really important stuff. YOU. You have the right to be honest with people, without having to fully explain yourself or give them all the horny details. You have the right to say no to this guy who is at your door and in your bed because you have become his easy convenience....ouch! Pull up the doormat, close your legs, and tell your friends, if they really are your friends, that the two of you are done.
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Ohhh man, you are in a pretty big mess, it's definitely time to get out of it.
Now,let me just say that this whole excuse of,"Finding God and himself" is a bit lame. I believe in God and everything, but yet he's still being physical with you? It sounds like he's ready for the commitment part to be done and you shouldn't stick around for the game he's playing with you. By all means this could be one of the sweetest guys in the world, but what he's doing to you definitely isn't sweet.
You can still be broken up, and on break from each other while being neighbors. You need to say,"Look, I can't have you telling me you want to find yourself and God and then still stick around for the physical part, it's wrong.If you still want to be broken up, I want space. No more kissing, no more anything that couples do because you decided that we are no longer a couple."
And thats exactly what you need, is a break. When you run into him, wave, say hi,or smile, but thats it. If he tries to egg it on with small talk, try ending it as soon as possible and walk away.
Yes, you will be very sad, heartbroken, and you'll feel pretty down. But, do you believe in God? Because if you do, I think we both know that if this guy belongs with you, God will make sure that happens. Maybe not now, maybe later, years later. You might meet again. Or, he'll realize he made a pretty big mistake for losing someone as great as you.
-TheTeenGirl
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i guess your screwed most people can hide out in their house without having to see your ex, either 1)stop going to those dinner parties, and hide out in your house. 2)confront him and tell him how akward it is, and he needs to stop conversing with you
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