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Two men in my life: current bf and ex bf trying to have me t
I am a 21 years old female
I dated my ex boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. He was the first guy I ever experienced anything with (if you know what I mean) and he is also from a different ethnic and religious background.
I ended up converting but not for him and our relationship was always pretty good. I loved him but the last year he kept holding back from the relationship and didn't trust me and towards the end I felt so frustrated that I made him sit down with me and just talk (which was always like pulling teeth with him) and he told me "I don't think we have a future." I broke up with him after that and was devastated.
I never met his family because dating is frowned upon and that was another problem. When we broke up I told him that I didn't want to see him or talk to him unless he was willing to introduce me to his family and to get engaged. That was my ultimatum and I never expected to see him again.
I didn't talk to him for 2 months and during that time my closest friend who is also a guy told me that he has always loved me and wanted to be with me. It was stupid but I rushed into a relationship with him without really cleaning up the baggage from my first relationship. I care about him a lot and don't want to hurt him plus he treats me like a princess.
Just recently my ex called me up and said that he was sorry for how he acted and that he wanted to change. That he has told his entire family about me and if I will take him back he wants me to meet them and then we will get engaged and when we are more financially secure we will get married.
I care for both of them and I have no idea who to pick what do you guys think?
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hi, the question you need to ask yourself is who will keep you most happiest, and who can you see yourself having a good long-term relationship/ future with?? your ex did tell you he don't see both of you having a future together, that probably showed he had no intention of marrying you in the first place until you actually gave him the ultimatum.
i know i can't tell you exactly who to pick, but i've heard the saying 'you should be with the one who loves you, not the one you love'(as the one who loves you will keep you happy, or atleast try to) and your current boyfriend he treats you like a princess.
if it is still hard for you, just write down a list of pro and cons for both guys...it might give you a clear idea. but you do need to think carefully and not rush in making any decisions.
good luck, i just hope it works out well with whom ever you decide to pick.
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So how secure financially do you have to be to become his bride? ASK! Also if his family doesnt approve, where will he stand? Its hard to find someone who can be your friend, and your mate. The guy you are with right now, are you guys happy? make a pros and cons list, and dont give up current guy because you picture a big beautiful wedding with your ex. It could be in the cards for a different groom. Sad to say but you may choose your ex and lose your best friend, is he worth it? please take some time on this one, only you can make this choice. Ive been there and lost it all. hope it turns out better for you. Brie
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