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therapist to the guy and the girl...and a secret of my own
theres this guy who i like and he's like my second guy best friend. he's been in a few complicated relationships before and i've always helped him, given him advice with his problems, etc. i never really looked at him than more than a friend because he always had a girlfriend. so a few months ago, (he was single) i realized i liked him. i opened my mouth to say "i think i like you" and before i said anything he says "so i heard anna likes me" and he has this curious smirk on his face and i said that i didn't know if she did and then i asked if he liked her and he said he wasn't sure. now, about a month later him and "anna" are sort of involved. they've kissed once but they fight all the time and just like always he comes back to me for advice. now normally i'd tell him to forget about her because she's causing him so much stress but the thing is, "anna" is one of my best friends and i wouldn't want to be responsible for breaking her heart. but i really really really reallllyyy like this guy. he's so perfect. he has the body, brains, and an amazing personality. my mom likes him too. lol. i really think we can work, considering i know his relationship details that "anna" does not. i know what girls do that he hates, i know what he loves when girls do. (non-sexual). i know his quirks and his flaws and he knows mine. i just want to be with him so bad and it sounds horrible but i want him to think about me more than "anna". he already calls me at midnight when he can't sleep, or when he's depressed. what am i supposed to do?!
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hi, i know you feel like your in a tough situation with a cute guy on one hand and your friend anna on the other. but have you thought maybe this guy might also have feeling for, but probably things you see him only as a 'friend', you seem to be really close, why else would he open up to you out of all his other mates to talk to. i think you should tell him, i know you might feel guilty because she is your friend, but you will feel a lot more worser if you never tell this guy....sometimes (only in rare occassions such as this one) you have to be a little selfish. i dont mean selfish in a horrible greedy way, but just tell him, anna doesn't have to know, it will hopefully be between you and him, and if hopefully in the future anna and him break up (let's hope) then he might just consider you...you know, i'm not saying break your friends heart, but it's not right to break your own heart either, i just think you should tell him, leave it to that, but makesure you explain "you don't want this to ruin the relationship you have right now, you'll always be there for him as a friend", but just see how he feels.
sometimes it's good to take a risk, before it's too late. if you don't act now then you will spend time thinking what could have happened if only you had told him. i know there's always the fear of being rejected, but atleast you would know how he feels... i just hope it works out for you, take care, hope i helped, GOOD LUCK!!x (",)
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You kind of have to think about exactly what you're getting yourself into. You like your best friend's boyfriend, and thats a pretty huge problem because if you do decide to tell him you like him, you're doing more than that.
You're risking your friendship with Anna. I mean, I understand that you pretty much liked him before Anna ever did, but Anna will not understand that. She will probably get pretty upset if she found out you liked him and everything. I'm sure you're aware of this of course. But I'm just wondering, do you care what Anna will think if you decide to confess your feelings?
About him coming to you for advice, that's just honestly not right, I mean I'm sure you love being there for him, but you're caught in the middle. And if you want him to stop asking you for advice about your best friend, you just have to say,"I think you should talk to Anna, because I want to be here for you, but I really don't think Anna would like us talking about her and your relationship drama"
I think it's great that your mom likes him, it truly s, but you have to make a decision. Whose more important? Anna or your best guy friend?
In my opinion, I think if you want any slightest chance with keeping both Anna and him in your life, you need to wait until they're over. But it's really up to you.
-TheTeenGirl
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