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he likes me..
My best friend, Melissa likes another friend I've had since 2nd grade. Let's call him Steve. So one day they were texting until 3am, and he said he liked a new girl. He wouldn't tell her who, but he said she was perfect. A few days later, I found out it was me. The thing is, I am kind of starting to like Steve now, but I don't want him to ruin my frienship between me and Melissa. I know I would NEVER go out with him if he asked because that's so mean to my friend, but things are so awkward. What do I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
First- let me ask this:
Would you like Steve had you found out it wasn't you he liked?
If the answer to that is no- then what you're feeling is flattery. Its the classic "he likes me- I think I like him because he likes me" deal. Its not fair to him, should that be the case.
If the answer is yes- then what you're feeling is genuine. To like someone regardless of how they feel about you is true. That way- you know you're not liking them just because they like you.
Now-
If you want to go out with Steve- go right ahead. Don't let your friend Melissa stop you from something great. If it makes her jealous enough to where she doesn't want to be your friend anymore- she has problems. Friends need to make sacrifices for each other. If she can't make the sacrifice- she isn't a true friend. And I don't think it would be "mean" to her if you went out with him- you can't help if he likes you and not her, right?
Maybe talk to your friend Melissa and tell her that if Steve asks you out- you plan on saying yes. Ask her how she feels about it. She might automatically say "I'm fine with it!" but tell her that she can tell you the truth- no matter what it is. Friends should be able to trust each other.
Good luck- but if your friendship with Melissa means more- then that's fine =D. I just thought I would give you my opinion on it.
--Jack
(15/m)
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These situations suck!
I'd start off by telling Steve that you're not interested in a relationship with him, and your friendship with Melissa means more. Let him know that he's not coming between your friendship by pursuing a relationship with you. Tell him you want to stay friends though (if you do), but nothing more.
Then, I'd tell Melissa the same thing. Tell her that you know she likes him and you wouldn't go out with him because your friendship means more than a stupid guy. Tell her you'd never want something as silly as this come between you two. The friendship you've built is more important to you. "Chicks before dicks." ;]
Try to stay just friends with both of them. And maybe hang out all three of you, doing something fun, to ease the situation. Go mini golfing or something together. Have a fun time, and don't bring up the fact that Steve likes you or anything.
So basically, just maintain your friendships, and if Steve likes Melissa still ,let them work it out. Good Luck! =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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