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Confused About Love.
We'll, let's see I'll start off with my age and gender. I'm a seventeen year old female. I've had a rough time with this thing called "love". I thought I had loved two people within the past four years. The first was too controlling so I forced myself out of that relationship, got over her meaning I never really did "love" her. The second was abusive and controlling, this time I wasn't the one to end the relationship. I stuck around getting hurt for six months with this girl, I fell for her within the first week or so, and she broke up with me. I know that wasn't love because as much as she may ahve hurt me she taught me that love is a two way street. Each person has to return the favour. In my case she lost interests in me. Now I also believe that anyone can "fall in love" but it takes two to "be in love." Now I've got a new girlfriend. I've been with her for a month in a week from now. She's not abusive, she's sweet, adorable and actually treats me equally. My only problem here is, she has an ex girlfriend. Whom was the only girl she ever told she "loved" and meant it with all her being. They dated for about four months and the girl dumped her without any hints I'd suppose. Then was majorly harsh to her. Sadly, the girl isn't a threat, she passed away about two year's ago from an OD. But my current girlfriend still loves her. After just leaving my last relationship, and thinking I was in love has me confused about what love really is. With this newer girl I feel so comfortable around her, and sometimes just feel that I love her, and the feeling comes to just say it naturally. But of course, I don't, knowing for sure she doesn't share those feelings back. I'm worried I'll "fall in love" with this girl, and if I tell her she might leave me or something because of her past. I'm also afraid to get hurt again so close to just getting hurt. I'm not sure whether or not to tell the girl I'm with all of this, and wing it, at least then she'd know. Or sit around not telling her, and see if her feelings for me grow any stronger.
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you should stay with her;; it seems like she is really into you and you feel the same.. even though she has had a tough time, you should help her through it, and tell her that your there to talk if she needs anyone to talk to. maybe, you should talk to her about how you feel, and your concerns, if it will make you feel better
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Sweetie you cant stop yourself from falling in love if you fall in love with her it was just meant to be. You dont have to compete with the deseased. Let your girlfriend know how you feel she may be worried about the very same thing i also know where you are comming from. I've THOUGHT i was in love twice. I had a 3 year relationship and the other was 7 months. I really got to the point where i didnt think i could live without that person but you know when that person is gone you tend to grow farther from them. You will never really know what love is untill you find that one that just really stops your heart. After those two relationships i thought i could never fall in love again. (the truth is actually i didn't want to fall in love again) I was sick of being hurt. Two years later i met an amazing guy, i expected us to just date for a little bit and it would be over. Well we are going on our 3rd year now and i truley know what love is. The moral of this story is just dont be afraid to fall in love again, dont shut someone out just because of your past experiences. Who knows you may really have the love of your life right now. Just dont force it. Love falls into place beautifully and when your truley in love you will know.
*catieannmiller
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Thanks but its not about me :], i hope everything works about for the best for you. If not DON'T give up. LOVE will find you when you least expect it.
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