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first off, thanks for helping me out. it feels really good to be able to talk about this.
curran (the boy i hooked up with) said that he hated his girlfriend after she cheated on him. but now that they're back together, which happened about two weeks ago, he says he loves her now.
i really don't think that i can tell my boyfriend about this...not unless i'm going to break up with him. and i don't really know what to say to curran about this. i've tried texting him today but he hasn't written anything back. and i don't know if he's ignoring me because he doesn't know what to do or something like that. the way that i feel is that i want curran. i know i want him. but it all depends on wether or not he's willing to break up with his girlfriend to give us a chance. i think he meant that he likes me though. the way that he held me all night, i could just tell, you know?
but i really think that i do have more feelings towards curran. the boy that i'm going out with now i thought i was in love with two years ago. he fucked things up. i didn't like him for the longest time and then randomly, about a month ago i asked him out. just out of the blue. we've been having fun together and everything's been great.
and i've only liked curran for two months, but that's only because i've only known him for two months. but that doesn't mean i know my boyfriend better than curran because i've known him longer. i honestly don't really KNOW my boyfriend. we've been friends forever but it's not like we get in deep conversations about stuff. and i know i like curran, we've been hanging out alot lately. so it's not like if we went out then i would find out i don't really like him after i get to know the real him.
while we were hooking up i was like you have a girlfriend..and i have a boyfriend. he was like gshlkf i know...we're so going to hell for this. lol. so yeah, he knew it was wrong. and i knew it was wrong. but we kept going anyway.
i don't know if curran's willing to break up with his girlfriend. but i really like him and i want to be with him. i just don't know how to go for it.
thanks, melanie :]
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Sorry it took me so long to answer. I was caught up in MySpace & all the nonsense it can bring. But now, to your question.
Alright, so you KNOW that you want Curran, but you're not so sure about your boyfriend? The solution? Simple. Talk to these boys! You said you don't know a lot about your boyfriend even after knowing him for 2 years, so you should probably start talking to him more & getting to know him before you make any rash decisions.
If you decide not to get to know your boyfriend more, then you need to break up with him. Not only did you cheat on him with Curran, but you barely like him & have no idea why you asked him out. Basically, your whole relationship is based on a lie & it's not fair to him for you to keep things going. I know you don't plan on telling your boyfriend what happened, but don't you think you should? I'm pretty sure that if you got cheated on, you'd feel like you were owed [sp? or did I make that up?] a confession. So, you should confess to your boyfriend, apologize & come to a conclusion & agreement that being friends would be a good thing for the both of you.
However, once you tell your boyfriend, EXPECT him to possibly HATE you. Hate is a strong word, but it could just possibly describe how he's going to feel.
All in all though, if you like Curran, talk to him about this. Talk to him about what happened, discuss the situation at hand about you guys dating, see what he's willing to do, & then possibly break up with your significant others [which you both should since you both cheated]. And if Curran's not answering his text messages, call him. Don't wait for a response because he may not respond. If he doesn't pick up the phone, leave a voicemail & label it as urgent so he'll read it. If that doesn't work, message him on MySpace or Facebook & see what happens. So talk to Curran, confess to your boyfriend/break up, & see what happens with this other boy.
If you need anymore help, I'm glad to do so. Just leave another inbox or IM me. =) Good luck with everything Melanie!
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