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i need advice!
well.. i aint really done one of these before.. but here i go..
i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now.. but i have only known him for at least 4 months.. before i started talking to him.. i never knew him or spoke to im before. but neway.
for some reason. when im with him. i aint myself around him. im not shy like in the bedroom or anything. but normally im a happy person and full of energy. but when im with him. i just sit there looking sad a and borin.. he says he thinks im normal. but im different wen im with my friends. i dont no how to be myself aorund him. i keep gettin scared that he is gonna end it. i dont no y but i do. and i dont no weva thats y i cant b myself around him. coz im scared of loosin him. i need advice on how to b myself. and be more fun to be with??
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i am the same way when i first used to be with my boyfriend... its kind of like your nerves and if your anything like me.. maybeyou think that if you are yourself maybe he wont like you.. so you just kinda sit there.. and think a lot.. how i over came that was, i would tell him lets go do something fun.. go to something you really enjoy doing, something that relaxes you and makes you happy.. you will start to loosen up and get more confortable... dont be afraid to be yourself, because there is a reason he is with you, because he likes you, so be you and have fun.. everyone gets like this at someone point with someone theylike... even the boys.. they just dont admit it lol... but i would say go to something you like to do, loosen up and once you see you and he are having a good time and you are being yourself, you will then slowly start to loose that feeling of "shyness" and the fear of him leaving you....
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If you are pretending to be someone you're not; you're lying to him. And lying is not only unfair to him; it's even more unfair to you. There may be nothing worse than living a lie... And he should know the person that he is dating. So... Do yourself (and him) a favor and just be yourself.
I know you're frightened that you might lose him. But think about what would happen if you did... You would be hurt, yes? Disappointed? And while I know how that feels and wouldn't want you to feel that way... I promise that you'll get over it and move on. The bottom line is that someone isn't worth having if they don't want the real you... And they don't deserve you if they make you feel bad about yourself.
So... Relax. Be yourself. If he cares about you he'll stick around. If not... You are going to be just fine. ;)
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yeah i know what you mean, cause thats kinda how i am with my boyfriend. but what he told me is to be myself no matter what and be comfortable around him.
but what you should do is just be your self, and if he doesnt like you when your being yourself, then hes a dick and you shouldnt stand for that.
you know what im mean.
and if he really likes you and everything he wont break up with you for acting your self, he probably wants you to be your self.
hope i helped.
-jess
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