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I can never seem to talk to guys.
I can never seem to talk to guys! My best friends:
Helen, Sarah and Katie talk to guys in class and out ( and obiously me) but i can never seem to get in a conversation that they are in so i just go with someone else like Jess (my m8). It might be because they are the coolest boys in our class and i am just scared, but i would like some advice on what i could do.
Oh.. and i am 13/f if that helps.
And i do like this boy called Harry and i think he likes me, if that helps. But Harry is in the middle (not popular, but not unpopular) if you know what i am saying. An that i really want a boyfriend too.
I am sorry that this is long but, i had to explain everything, so then you would understand.
Thanks alot, anything will do, just say what you think.
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Alright- I have a few things to tell you.
1. Don't go looking for love.
2. Don't change yourself for anyone [like to get a boyfriend].
3. Don't just go for the "popular" people. They aren't all they are cracked up to be. They can be some of the rudest people you'll meet. Trust me, I've dealt with them.
Now I think that starting a friendship with this Harry guy is a smart thing to do. Maybe hang out with him and his other guy friends. Just be polite and be yourself. Try to meet people by starting small talk. This is really easy in school- when you're sitting next to someone- just make a joke about how you don't understand something or how you forgot a pencil or pen [whether you really have one or not]. I know this sounds lame- but some of my greatest friendships this year started because we sat next to each other in a class and I eventually asked them for their AIM/MySpace/etc.
It really works. If you be yourself- and try to be a little more outgoing, you'll make a lot of friends- both guys and girls.
--Jack
(15/m)
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ok so if this i your first time really talking to boys then i would start by getting some guy friends . now as you put it "the coolest boys in your class" might be to much for you at first but that guy harry sounds nice find out what he likes to do and what he like start but talking about that and it well get easy then you just might date but just try
good luck
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I know it is hard to talk to guys. Especially when you are young and just learning about relationships. Some girls just seem to do it naturally, but for those of us who find it awkward, here are some things that worked for me.
Well, girls and guys have a lot in common today. You probably have a lot in common with the boy who are your age. Like music, bands, video games, on-line websites. etc. So ask about those things. What kind of music do you like? Then tell him what you like. Who are your favorit groups, then (after he answers) tell him yours. Ask him about brothers and sisters? Love em or hate em. Compare notes. Ask about kids in school who are 1.) real popular 2.) great in sports 3.) smartest in school, 4.) worst teacher, 5) best teacher, then tell him yours.
Ask about favorite foods, candy, ask about utube, myspace, etc. etc. Then also be a GOOD LISTENER. When and if he does something smart, amazing, cool, unsual, daring, scary, etc. etc.
Say "hey that was smart, or amazing, or cool or unusual, or daring or scary, etc. etc.
I think these will help you get started Good luck to you
Michele
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