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boyfriends best friend hates me.
okay, so i've been dating this guy named alex for about a month and a half now. as soon as he broke up with his girlfriend shannon, he got with me, so shannon told EVERYONE that he cheated on her, which wasn't even true.
when they broke up, his best friend mitch got close to shannon. so ever since the beginning of mine & alex's relationship mitch hasn't approved. he tells people that he wants to spit in my face & kick my ass. i know he wouldn't. but the fact alex won't tell him to stop bugs me.
i mean, i don't want him to choose me over his best friend. but it annoys me when they hang out because alex never talks about me i just feel like he's ashamed of me.
i've told alex how i feel and that he needs to tell mitch to stop being so mean to me, but he just won't. what else can i do?
thank you.
17.female!
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wow thats confusing but i get it. ok well first... you need to tell Alex the way you feel bc relationships with secrets always end badly and you will feel bad about what you are hiding. about that shannon girl wow she sounds like a bitch! just dont worry about her abv if Alex is with you he likes you more. but i do feel a sense of a rebound girl (u) sry i just sense that if he really got over that fast. Mitch... he has a problem he is probally getting told bad things about you by shannon. So whenever you see mitch be the nicest person in the world and same with shannont they will fel guilty about being mean and God will help you too.
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Here is what I suggest............
You need to make Alex understand that being in a relationship means that you defend one anothers itegrity and honour now, Alex cannot make Mitch like you however, Alex should tell Mitch that, as his best friend, he should be able to be happy for him even if he doesn't entirly agree.
Also Alex should tell Mitch that he is entitled to his own opinion (given time, when Mitch sees that you and Alex are serious about one another his opinion will probably change) however, Alex should stress to him in no uncertain terms that when he and Mitch are together that if he has nothing nice to say about you that he should say nothing at all. This way, Mitch gets the idea that Alex doesn't like him bad mouthing you and Alex does not need to choose between you and his best friend which would be an unfair position for anyone to be in.
I hope this helped.
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