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Trying not to be boring
15/m
Okay, I've been going out with this girl for a long time and to be honest, everything is really boring between us. I feel like it's my fault that I let everything get so boring, but she's so intimidating that it's hard to make a move or try something different...
She's not really like most girls which is one of the things I like about her, but it's also a bad thing in some way because I don't know what she's thinking.
It's always the same thing: Say "I love you" when she has to leave and maybe kiss her and that's it. So I guess what I'm asking is what else can I do to keep this relationship going?
Thanks in advance.
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You need to start treating this girl like she's your friend as well as your girlfriend. Do things with her - play with her, entertain her, laugh with her, let her entertain you, talk to her, let her talk to you, open up to her, etc. Love is an essential part of a relationship, but so is genuinely liking the other person. Do you like this girl at all? Are you sure you love her?
You shouldn't be intimidated by someone you love. You should be comfortable with her. It sounds like you guys are going through the motions of having a relationship but aren't actually having a relationship. A relationship should be about the little things that make up the time you spend together. You want to look back on these moments and think of them fondly. You're making memories.
So if you really do like/love this girl, you need to start acting like it. Do what you'd do for fun with your friends with her. Do what she'd do for fun with her friends with her. Do these things together and just have fun. Don't force things and just take a casual approach to it. If there's chemistry, it'll come naturally. If these continue to be boring or forced, it isn't going to work.
Good luck and contact me if you need more advice. :)
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there's nothing intimidating if you really love a person. just be yourself! if you don't know what she's really up to then why don't you start a conversation like, "what are your plans this weekend?".. discover what she likes to do.. if she loves nature then go camping or have a peaceful walk in the park. if you really don't want to lose her then do everything it takes to keep her. the Simpler the better.like leaving romantic notes on her table, asking her to watch a concert, etc. and make lots of memories together!
glad to help!
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