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bondage
my boyfriend's into bondage and i'd be willing to do it but i dont know how to get into it. like i dont know what to do to make it sexy or dominating or whatever the point of bondage is. any tips?
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Well, See. it depends on where youa re going to be in it.
Dominant or Submissive.
The Dominant is the one holding the whips, So to speak. This one inflicts punishment, and makes the other feel worthless, or w/e the fantasy is about. they are in charge. period. in the acts, never show care or compassion in this role, that is not the point.
The submissive is the one in chains. they are to be at the Dominants mercy, to resist then be broken. they are the victim, helpless and tortured, with no way out or to escape.
Doing this is all about trust.
The submissive must trust the dominant enough to hurt them, but still not truely. and the dominant must not abuse that trust. For some, it is purely abotu feeling pain, or inflicting it. But that is not what this should be about. Show your partner how much you trust him, but make sure he knows that if you are'nt comfortable, you are willing to try, but he should not pressure you if it is not somethign you enjoy.
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My tip is not to let anyone tie you up unless you know him pretty darned well. It's not safe.
For everything else, since it's his kink, you'll have to find out what he's after. He could be either the 'top' or the 'bottom' meaning that he either wants to tie you up or be tied up himself. He might be into discipline. He might not. You might ask him to show you video/magazine examples of what he likes or to write out a fantasy for you.
Good luck,
Sabine
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