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Avoidance
13/F
I always avoid guys I like. I'm either really intimidated by him or I want to seem more confident by not talking to him or I'm embarrassed of liking a guy.
I'm quite an introvert. I'm really embarrassed that a guy might know I like him and I try to hide the fact that I like him by never to talking to him much, or avoiding him, never making eye contact, etc.
I'm too shy about this and I need some advice. (Books, tips, exercises? Anything.)
Thanks. :)
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well lets start out like this i have the same problem as you but mine is more i don't like the way i look even though everyone thinks im really pretty i just don't see it but anyways
just start hanging out with guys more then you to girls do what the guys do and you might end up meeting a guy that you will like and by that time you will already be comfortable hanging out with him so being with him would be no problem. your everytime i think about being shy i think i only got one life to live so i need to live my life it doesn't matter what people think of me. and that helps me through that people think what they want to think just remember that ok the guy thing like i said just hang out with a bunch of guys do the guy thing then you will find a comfortable guy to be around
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I know exactly what you mean.
Like during the last day of school I saw my crush in the halls and I literally ran to avoid him. I always have that feeling that if I ignore or avoid him he'd end up wanting me more? Like you know how you see it in the movies...
Really and truely its about how comfortable you are with yourself. You should be able to like yourself first and mostly before you should like anyone else.
There isn't really a way to change that whole avoiding thing, its something that comes with time and the confidence you build as you grow up.
idk if it would work but keep a daily diary or some sort of memory thing and document the good things about your days and your accomplishments so whenever you feel like you don't like yourself you can look back and see "well I did this really good thing, im a good person" yaddayaddayadda. haveing strong friendships will help too. Always have that support system when you feel down.
Don't expect to change overnight. I still feel how you feel every day aswell but it'll take time and a whole lot of effort to change (but in the end its worth it)
Hope I could help.
Feel free to add me on msn if you want to talk.
-CARI
supcari@gmail.com
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dont avoid this giy if you really like him you need to talk to him. Somrtimes its ok if you ignore him because sometimes when you ignore them they want you more.
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okay well there must be something you are good at like sports or a hobby, maybe your good at math or something like that. and concentrate on the good in yourself! find a new hobby that guys are involved in also (make sure it is one you will actually like) and you dont even have to like any of the guys in it, just be with the girls and guys and just get comfortable around them, just start a conversation calmy if your all together and just be like hey that math test was hard today wasnt it? or like are you ready for the science quiz tomorrow then when it comes to the guy you like, it wont be so hard to be yourself, you can just strike up a conversation with him without being nervous, try looking(the guy in your new hobby) in the eyes when you talk, not like crazy just be polite.
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