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Telling the family about boyfriends.
Ok this is an issue that hasn't been resolved for over 7 months. My boyfriend which i love dearly really wants me to tell my family about him. He's told his mum about me but i haven't told my family about him yet. My best friend knows about him though. If he lived near me i wouldn't have a problem but the issue is, he lives on another continent. He was just a guy i met on msn and talked to for a while and i duno i never thought id fall inlove with some guy online but i did. So we decided to date. This is the first time i ever dated anyone online cuz i always thought "omg what loser would date online" but it's weird, i just love him. Whenever we talk online or on the phone he's always asking me to tell my family about him because he did for me and i did kinda make a big deal about him not telling his mum. I feel bad because even though i dont HAVE to tell my family i want to but its so hard. He does this home schooling thing since about a year ago i think because he was kicked out of school which made him lose contact with most of his friends and the rest moved. The only people he really see's are his mum, his sister, his baby nephew and his sisters boyfriend but i go to school and i have heaps of friends and then theres my mum dad sis and bro. I felt horrible about not telling anyone at the beginning so i told my bestfriend and she was kinda..well she hated him because she thought he was going to hurt me. But after afew months she grew to like him and it wasnt so bad. But my family..i dont tell my family personal stuff AT ALL and so its so weird for me to do. Sometimes i think he should understand if i dont want to but i did force him to tell his family and i feel horrible. He'd never dump me for not telling my family its just because i met his mum online he really wants to meet my mum and its so sweet. I need to know how i could tell my family apart from just saying it to them like "i have a boyfriend who lives on another continent..so whats for dinner?" Alot of you might be thinking that because we met online the probability that 15 year olds arent going to fall inlove over the net and stay together but i DO love him and i believe we will. We've already set out plans on whos going where to meet and whats happening and hes practically planned his whole life around me and me to him. i need to tell my mum so wen the time comes to eventually move to where he lives i wont have to make up some lame excuse and she can help me out with universities over there and stuff. HOW DO I TELL HER??? Any great advice will be fantastic. p.s sorry its kinda long. Btw hes 14/m/Florida and im 15/f/australia.
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Hey umm.. that was pretty long there .lol. But I just have a few words as a reply to your problem.
Now, in my opinion, i think your toooo young to really know what your talking about, and to know what LOVE really means. You see, i'm not trying to make fun of you or anything, because thats not why i'm here, infact i'm here, to prevent people from going through the same experiences I went through, I mean i got to know like what umm.. 3 or 4 guys online before, and everytime i'd think ' oh my god, i'm in love with this guy and i'll never let go of him and all this crap' and then i'd plan to meet up with him later on in the future , but then a couple of months or a maximum of a year, and when this guy's name would be mentioned, i'd go like ' who??' or ' oh ya, that silly childhood crush i had', and thats all you'd say.
Seriously, you guys are 14 and what,15?
Something like what your talking about would rarely be possible if we were talking about 18 or 20 year olds, but not 14 or 15 years olds who still do not know what love is and can not experience it.
Its cool to have a boyfriend in your age and everyone does, but its never based on true love, a crush could be possible, and likeness could do too and maybe even admiration, but not true love and plans of being together, and as time passes, of marrying each other. Your kind of exaggerating, and i'm telling you all this to try and point you in the right direction, cause if you tell your parents about everything you just said now, i'm telling you right now that your parents are gonna forbid you from talking to him again, and there gonna be like , that you wasting your time with him when you could be with some other guy from your school who you could see everyday and hang out with whenever you want.
And you know something, if he wasn't homeschooling and he went to a school and met people , he would have already found a girl to date, but its just because he doesn't go out and meet people and have a chance to know them well, is why he's online all the time talking to you and asking you out and making plans with you.
Seriously, i'm not making fun here or anything, cause he does sound like a fine guy alright, but thats not the path you wanna follow, and what i'm saying may not seem like something you'd want to listen to now or believe in, but its the right thing, and maybe the thing that you'd be repeating to others later on.
Just consider what I said, and for now, you should definitely not tell your parents to avoid any fights or incase they would not allow you to talk to him again, and if you need any further advice, please be free to contact me. I hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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