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my boyfriend and i cant talk
well, i have a boyfriend and lately it seems we cant talk about anything. even when i try to talk about something it's like it doesnt matter to him.such as, i'll start talking about this "talking problem" and he'll be like, "oh, i didn't hear a word you said, but one of my friends is on the line with us". i just dont understand him anymore. like in the begining of our relationship he was really serious about everything; he would talk about all of our problems with me. ask me if i was okay with something. and i'm scared because he's been talking to a lot of girls lately and it bothers me because a lot of them he seems to be really good friends with and i'm just worried. maybe he's getting bored with me...a lot of guys seem to do that with me, or that's how it seems. are we in a block?...i dont know who to talk about with this stuff, i cant go to my mother, she doesnt take anything i say seriously and all my friends don't even really support me in anything right now. i dont even know if i have any real friends any more. i dont even know if you can help me with my problem, but i just dont know what to do anymore. i dont know what to say to him or anything. im scared we are going to fall apart and i dont want that to happen because i love him with all my heart. i would die for him, but i dont know if i can trust him to do the same. i dont know if i can trust him with anything. i just got out of a really bad relationship about 9 months ago and i have a lot of trust issues and i told my guy that and he said he understood but at the times when i say i trust him, i mean it and then later on, like with the girl stuff, when i say i dont agree or appriciate that, he says he doesnt understand why i cant trust him. he doesnt even say i love you that much anymore and its scaring me. i care about him so badly, will you please help me?
thank you so much
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Well, I may be wrong, but it sounds like a lot of what you want to talk about is "problems." The problem of you guys not talking... the problem of you not trusting him... the problem of him talking to other girls. Yes, it's good to talk about problems, rather than keeping them inside... but if that's ALL you ever talk about, it can be a real burden on the relationship. Even though he may really care about you, he may eventually get fed up and start to feel like it's not worth the hassle.
My advice is to take a little break from the problem discussions and see what happens. Sometimes problems do work themselves out without having to bring them up. For example... about you guys never talking. Well, instead of talking about not talking, talk about happy, fun things that you think he'd enjoy talking about.
As for the trust issue... that's a problem that you have to get over yourself. Talking to him about it isn't going to solve it; it's just going to cause more problems. If he hasn't cheated on you, then you really don't have a reason not to trust him. Even if you're secretly insecure about it because of your past relationhips, try to keep it to yourself. If he really cares about you, he's not going to do anything to risk losing you.
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Aww well your very insecure about the people in your life. He's not paying alot of attention to you or really listening to you and thats a big problem in relationships. You need to talk to him in person and tell him what you just typed up. You need to get your point across to him. If he continues to act like he is, then he's not good enough for you. In person is the best way to figure things out cuz theres not really a way he can avoid it. Are you spending alot of time together? Or not enough? Im sorry i can't help you much more but if he can't try to listen to you or if he doesn't really care for your insecurities then seriously honey, he isn't worth it. I hope it all works out! Just talk to him! Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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