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okay well my boyfriend gets really jealous, but not to the point where it's over bearing.. his last relationship ended when he found out his girlfriend had TWO other boyfriends, so i don't really blame him for being this way.. well, we've been going out for a year (tomorrow, actually =) yayy!) and i was just wondering something.. well i never really talk to any guys as much as i did before being with him, but there was this kid on my myspace that added me who lives like in ohio and i live in pa (but on opposite ends so we're like 8 hours from each other, not that it really matters though) and he posted a bulletin about being upset cause girls are confusing or something, so feeling generous, i messaged him and we just talked about stupid stuff for a little bit and that's all. messages always seem shady, i know that.. so if my bf sees it, he'll probably be upset.. he knows my password and stuff cause he doesn't have a myspace so i gave him my info so he can still look at other poeples, although he like never goes on the computer anymore just because he doesn't.. so my question is should i delete the message? if he saw it i know it would create controversy, but its not really a big deal.. the kid said i was cute in the message.. and in his about me it says he's a flirt, so i know that part would deff make him be kinda upset.. i know he wouldn't like break up with me over it, but should i delete the messages just to be safe?? thanks =) sorry so long, i just like details haha ♥
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I personally think that you should keep the message. But you should call him or talk to him about it before he finds out about the message by himself. It might stop much of the drama & stuff because he'll know that you were being honest with him & told him. If you didn't flirt or anything I'm sure there's nothing really to worry about. Hope I helped :]
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I shall offer a dissenting voice here.
If you delete the messages, you are hiding something from your boyfriend. Why would you do that? Either you think you did something wrong that you think needs to be hidden from your boyfriend, or you are afraid of and want to avoid the drama your boyfriend will cause if he sees the messages.
You haven't done anything wrong. You haven't even spoken to this guy. You've messaged him on the internet, in a friendly way, to give advice and be a friend. This is not something you have to hide. If it is something that you feel you have to hide, that is a problem.
Why is that a problem? Because it means that you are afraid of your boyfriend’s reaction. You are afraid of how your boyfriend will react to you talking to another guy - a guy you probably won't ever meet in person because he lives nearly 8 hours drive away from you. That shows a spectacular lack of trust and faith in you from him. If he trusted and respected you, he wouldn't be threatened by you just talking - not even talking, I might add, but messaging over the internet - to a male friend.
It is understandable that your boyfriend is more suspicious than he has justification to be when he has been cheated on before. This does not however mean that you should tolerate his jealousy and moderate your behavior by stopping speaking too or messaging male friends that you have. If you do this, you are allowing your boyfriend to control you in a way that is not healthy for you as an individual, or your relationship.
For these reasons, it would be better to leave the messages, and if he discovers them, explain calmly that it was just a friendly conversation that you have every right to have had. If he becomes upset, empathize with him - say you understand he has been hurt before and finds it difficult to trust, but be strong and say that it is essential that he does trust you and allows you freedom in this way.
If he can't let you have this freedom after a year of dating, then he probably isn't willing to trust you at all, and this will never be a good foundation for a relationship.
All the best.
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If you think it'll be a problem when his eyes see it, then clear your Inbox, your Sent messages, and your Trash.
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hey,
well i think you should delete them.
i would get jelous also if my bf was like doing that eventhough theres nothing to worry about.
you know, just to be safe
anyway this might become, big, like a misunderstanding, and you wouldnt want him to loose trust in you right? offcourse not.
for the sake of your relationship please delete the messges.
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My opinion: You should delete them.
I don't think you want anything to jeopardize your relationship with your boyfriend, especially after being with him for a whole year [congrats on that! :)]. Even if it's something silly like myspace messages, there's a chance he'll think there's something more to the story than just that.
Just be safe and get rid of them. ESPECIALLY the message that says he thinks you're cute.
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Good luck!
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