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okkk so basically there are two guys that like really like me... and i like both of them.
one of them is paul, who just came to our school a month before it ended, whereas the other brandon ive known for like yeaarss
anyways paul: every one basically hates him because hes pretty jackassy. and hes full of himselfff (because hes REAALly attractive!) but, he is soo sweet to me its not even funny. we always talk on the phone, and hes just really nice to me. also, we get along, because i make similar jokes as him, such as "i'm more attractive then them so they shouldn't be talking to me that way." (if that sounds concieted, i promise its not) anyways we have great chemistry, and hes asked me out quite a few times, but i dont want to go out with him because of his reputation. lately, we've been hanging out everyday, and im seeing him tomorow etc.
brandon: this year i made out with him, before i met paul. then we kinda became friends with benefits. anyways brandons sooo funny, and also hot, but i would never go out with him because hes not the boyfriend type
anyways, so basically brandon considers me his propertyyyy.... and now i also made out with paul. brandon hasnt yet found out that i made out with him, and if he did he'd probably be hurt.
but i like brandon and paul ONLY AS friends with benefits, but i still dont know what to do in this is situation... HELP?!
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The first person who acts like a smartass and half his age unless he's with you is the wrong choice for love but fine for a close friend. Trust me, you'll be dealing with his arrogance, selfishness and every jackass element about him at some point and constant fights as he cannot hide that. It will come out as that is exactly who he is.
You're into him (and trust me I can sense) because of his reputation and bad boy image. You like most girls/women are turned on by it. Once you get with him permanently you will see that he's not the sweetheart he appears to be now.
This is the BS bad boys use to sucker every girl in. Be his friend and be close to him but don't date him as it will not be a fun experience.
The thing that bothers me and should bother you about guy # 2 is that he considers you his property or trophy even and is territorial already when it comes to you and you're not even dating him yet. This is usually signs of a very controlling person and someone domineering.
Expect a power struggle in your relationship and him always asking what you are doing, where, with whom as he's insecure.
I would say to date him but proceed cautiously though and maybe even put him in his place and tell him your not his property and if you pull that shit while dating you're gone.
He sounds like the better person of the two frankly if you had to choose one. As far as the making out goes it's innocent and really none of his business unless you were dating him and cheated which you didn't.
He nor anyone else can fault you for it as you were not attached to anyone and needed to figure out who you liked and experiment a little. It's not like you're being slutty--far from that.
The whole friends with benefits thing doesn't work really for anyone when you think about it. Once sex enters the picture and neither wants to commit to a relationship someone gets let down hard and it's usually the girl who suffers most. End that arrangement now.
When or if you decide to date him and have a commitment you can bring sex back into the mix as you know his heart is with you and you are not going to get hurt.
If this were me I would throw both fish back into the lake and find other choices as there's a lot of bad personality traits happening here. However, if you choose anyone it's guy # 2 as he's a little more mature and responsible which is what you really need in a relationship. Guy # 1 is more the type to have as your goofy smartass pal.
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