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problems.
okay so iam a 16/f and i have alot of problems. and mostly its because of my bad attitude. like at home whenever i don't get what i want or if my parents tell me to do something i get mad. and i have anger problems as well. and i don't know what to do about that. and also at school im always getting made fun of. and whenever i make friends i always end up losing them i don't know why they just get turned off.. and even when i go out with my parents people from my school and they start screaming my name. and my parents always think that they do that because of my bad attitude or because i did something to them. and im so sick of it. and sometimes i wish i could just die. i fel like i don't belong here. what should i do?
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Well I think that you have already taken the first step to freeing yourself from these feelings.Recognizing that you have a problem with anger is a hurdle you have already conquered and that is a good thing.I don't automatically assume that you have a bad attitude because I know exactly what you are going through.Everyone goes through this period where they are mad at the world and they feel like they just don't belong. Sometimes more then often you also feel like noone understands but from my viewpoint you are looking at this the wrong way. Don't always assume it is you that has the problem. Futhermore it is not always your fault when you are shunned by someone at school or anywhere for that matter. Remember that in your age group many of these people are suffering with there own aches and pains of growing up.They have no concern for your feelings because they are too comsumed with their own.Unfortunately sometimes with parents you can have the same problem but for different reasons. They can't relate because they only think about how they feel now and not how it was when they were in your position. This is partly because when you do get older you realze what is more important and you separate that from harsh feelings moreso as time goes by.I think that you are being way too hard on yourself ! It is tough to deal with kids at school because they can be so judgemental and cruel.Besides what do they really know about you except for the things they have drew up in their own insecurity? Only a true genuine friend really knows who you are. Don't let what mean people say define you or what you will become.And when you get sick of their accusations and mean comments remind yourself of all the good things you try to be. I was a loner when I was in school so I know it is seems almost inevitable to believe things that you hear over and over. It is so much easier to think badly of yourself then to give yourself a little credit for all your good points. But nomatter what anyone says be true to yourself and oneday you will find a close friend who will appreciate you for it.Hang in there and if you want to talk I am here for ya!
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14/m
well the first thing you should do is make me your friend because i will never leave you nomatter what you are like. get my email off my page and we'll talk.
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I am 15/m- just for reference.
I used to feel the same way- like i didn't fit in and i was losing friends for no reason- stuff like that. all you have to do is try to put yourself into other peoples shoes. like if your friend is asking you to stop bugging them or something, then you could "put yourself in their shoes" and ask - what did i do wrong. usually, this can help you save alot of friendships. and about the anger problem. Just try to make a mental note that whenever you get mad, you can think of something funny, and just start laughing. it really works - it helps lighten the mood alot. just say to yourself "Would I rather be upset and make everyone unhappy? or would it be better to try and be happy? remember- feelings are contagious. whether they are bad or good :p
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