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they dont talk to me like they talk to each other.
ok so i just ended my first year of high school and i really just hate who i am. i'm not the person i want to be and i make too many mistakes and when my friends don't include me in their conversations when im around it just makes me feel invisible and horrible. i just dont like myself because i never know what to say to them. one of my friends i really like (as in like i want her to be my best friend forever) and i don't wanna say something stupid to get her not to like me because shes really nice most of the time and shes fun to be around. i dont wanna change myself cause thats just dumb. but my main point here is how can i get them to talk to me like they do to each other? thankss.
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Get closer with them. Try to hang out as much as possible, tell her your secrets, have sleepovers, talk on the phone & the computer. The more you talk to her & hang out with her, the closer you'll get & the more they won't ignore you. You can't just magically make a bond with someone, you have to put effort in.
And stop hating yourself. That could be another reason they don't talk to you a lot. Nobody wants to be around a negative, un-confident person. Don't be conceited, but don't say how sucky you are either. Nobody wants to hear that. They like to be around positive people.
Mistakes are normal to be made. Everybody makes them; even the people you think might be perfect. Fact though: nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes & it's a part of life. Mistakes help you grow, learn & mature. I honestly would not be who I am today if I didn't fuck up & make mistakes. I'm glad I made them though. It's made me so much smarter, and cautious. Not only that, but it's made me grow up & realize a lot of things I wouldn't have realized without them.
If you're not the person you wanna be, then you need to change. Don't change for anyone else. Change for yourself. That's the best type of change. Make sure you're happy with the outcome & make sure you know exactly what it is you're changing about yourself before you do it.
Good luck.
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you should never have to feel like you hate who you are, i think you need to open up and be yourself a lot more, and if you "friends" don't like you being yourself, then sweetheart, they're not your friends. another thing, don't spend all of your energy trying to make one specific person your "best friend" it's overrated, and you'll use up everything you have, i've been there. you should hang out with everyone over the summer, be you. and see what happens with everyone.
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Okay, I'm not going to just sit here and tell you that they arent true friends, because no one is perfect, and i bet you dont want to here that they arent true so... Just be yourself. and if you feel like that is not anough, find things you are intrested in. search the innner you. find things that make you truely happy, and dont depend on what people think of you or how they treat you to make up your esteem. You can create it yourself. Be the person you want to be. And who knows. maybe they arent your true friends. maybe think about finding people who like you for YOU and not because you feel that you have to try. i really hope to help you because i know your pain, but it will pass sooner or later, just stay TRUE TO YOURSELF! :)
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