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Hey there.
Okay, so. I work at Six Flags & this new guy named Alex just recently started working there too. So, we started talking, exchanged numbers & what have you. I never exactly told him that I liked him, because I knew he had a girlfriend.
Basically, him & his girlfriend were on a break, because she had chosen to be on it. Like, a month before he even met me and then we went to the movies last night & two nights ago. She was sooo furious. She got SO mad like, and Alex's younger sister sent me a message on Myspace, and she's like freaking out because she loves his ex girlfriend.
I don't know what to do. Because, Alex's ex girlfriend works at Six Flags too, and even though I won't see her all the time, I just don't want her starting crap with me.
Is this like, normal that his younger sister like totally hates me? Because, I don't want her to hate me already. Haha, it sucks. & also, is it wrong that I'm like dating Alex too? Has anyone else been through this?
Thanks.
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Although I really, really suck at life, here's what I would do.
I would talk to Alex about the situation, explain everything to him and all. I would just ignore his sister. I would not go up to his ex and try to explain yourself, she sounds a bit like a dumbass to me. And everyone knows dumbasses are unreasonable. She decided to take a break, now her ex is seeing another person. She has no right to be pissed at you. If she gives you shit, just ignore it. There is no need to to create more drama.
No it is not wrong you're dating Alex.
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Talk to Alex.
People in his stituation have a terrible habit of sitting back and just letting the shit fly for everyone else. Somehow they avoid the trouble that they are causing everyone else.
If he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend anymore, he should tell her so. If he wants to date you, he should tell his little sister to bug off. If he doesn't have a clue what he wants, you should probably take a step back from dating him. Hang out with him in groups, talk him online or on the phone (but not every day) and don't 'go out' with him anymore.
I say that for your own peace of mind, not because it's 'wrong'. You shouldn't be made a victim or be hated on by his ex and sister just because he doesn't know quite what he wants. That will only make you stress, and make you resent him. It's not a good way to start off something serious with someone.
But the biggest reason of all to not a date a person who is 'on a break' from another relationship is because YOU DESERVE SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THEY WANT TO BE WITH YOU. Not some wishy-washy guy.
Tell him the truth, simply and plainly, that you are interested in him, but don't feel this can go any further 'till he knows what he wants and tells the other girls in his life that. If he can figure it out, great! Until then, no more dating. That is the only way to give a relationship with him a fighting chance, and to protect yourself from needless anxiety.
As much as you might like a guy, never forget to put your own sanity first.
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I honestly don't think it's wrong. His girlfriend decided to go on the break & basically dump him, so why should she be pissed that he's out having fun dating again? If she's pissed about it, she's a hypocrite & she's two-faced.
Anyways, it is/isn't normal for his younger sister to hate you. In a way it is because she feels like you've stolen her brother away from his ex & in a way it isn't because she hasn't even met you yet to decide & make a judgement.
Basically, get to know him & his family some more & if you like him -- keep dating him. He could be a great boyfriend. Maybe if it's at all possible -- explain to his sister the situation & see if she ends up changing her mind about you. Younger kids can be easy to influence/trick unless they're clever for their age.
And if this girl starts trouble with you, walk away. She has no reason to be pissed, remember that.
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all that matters right now is that you like him, and he likes you. His ex girlfriend, to me, seems kind of passive agressive. she doesn't want him when she's with him, but when he's with you she won't have it. Don't let her come between you two. His little sister shouldn't be a problem either. You said she really like his ex girlfriend, but she probably wants to see her brother happy too. Once she warms up to you, then she'll probably start liking you as well.
hope that helps :]
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