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Missing boyfriend for a month.
My boyfriend has been in Europe for two weeks already, and he'll be there for another month. I'm very lonely because we are very much in love. I've kept myself busy by hanging out with friends I haven't seen in a long while, and also trying new things. But at the end of the day, I still miss him and I get very sad at night. I have no way of calling him because he is with a school group and phones weren't permitted. Also, when I'm around other guys I try to get close to them to make up for missing my boyfriend which I am very afraid will lead to cheating even though thats not who I am.
How do I control my sadness and my urge to find another guy to comfort me? (Female, 15. Boyfriend, 16)
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If you were TRULY in love with him, you wouldn't even THINK about cheating on him no matter how lonely you got. That is just NOT love. You have every right to feel sad & want to seek comfort. But you're acting needy & looking for the wrong type of comfort. Continue to hang out with a group of friends, go to the gym, become productive & get involved in something to keep you mind off of him. Don't be put into certain situations that would urge you to cheat. You are only going to hurt your boyfriend (& yourself) if you make that mistake. There's nothing else to do besides remind yourself that he WILL be back & it's not the end of the world.
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I'm dealing with being away from my boyfriend for 3 months, so I know what it's like.
For the first couple of weeks, I was miserable. I was mopey and homesick... the whole deal. What I did to snap myself out of it was to keep myself busy. I started going for walks, I go to the gym for an hour every day, I hang out with my co-workers.
As for the other guys, make sure it's just companionship. I was scared that I might cheat on my boyfriend, until I became really good friends with this guy I work with... no more than friends though. Being friends with him satisfies my need for male companionship, without crossing the boundary into cheating.
Good luck!
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Well for you sadness you should like hang out with friends, so somethin fun that will get your mind of your boyfriend. Dont just sit at home or think about him the whole time that just makes it worse on you. and if you are afraid that you might cheat on him then maybe you shouldn`t hang out with boys as much, hang out with girls and liek close friends that can make you feel better.
Do things that make you happy.
& hope i helped.
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