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Introvert
13/F. I'm an introvert, pretending to be social. I definitely have walls around myself, not allowing myself to make real human connections. I talk to people with my friends, but I feel blank, I can't just say what is on my mind, I have to say 'safe' things, almost to protect myself.
My goal this summer is to come back to school with self confidence and self-esteem. To always be myself. But, a lot of the books I've been finding just make ya sit at home all day reading the thing. I want to become more social, and I want to go out into the world and learn for myself how to get out there!
Are there any books anyone here is familiar with that have activities in them for confidence/self-esteem? I guess I've seen it called activity-oriented. Such as tasks to go out in the public and complete, to get out of my comfort zone.
Do you have any activity type things I could go do in the public to prove myself that I can be social? I would love help thinking of these... perhaps in order from easy to hard.
Thank you so much for any suggestions.
P.S. I have a two week summer course starting July 3rd and I'd like to really have the best time and make friends!
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Summer time is a great time for things like this.
There are lots of concerts you can go to, there is always people at the park, malls are crowded with teenagers and so are amusement parks. Lots of people are at the gym to get into shape or to stay in shape.
Do something new everyday that you can.
Go to the park and start talking to that guy playing basketball. Ask him to teach you.
Go to a local concert, many of which are free, and ask someone if they no of any other local bands you could go and see.
Go to an amusement park and ask someone about the biggest, scariest, and best ride there.
Go to the gym and ask someone how long they had been coming to workout and if they would be coming more often that summer. Maybe you'll see them again.
Go to the mall and ask someone what they're eating and where they got it at the food court.
These are just little things. But anything can give you a good start.
Have fun this summer =D
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Remember that whatever you want your personality to be you can achieve it. So when looking for activities to do where you can meet people, think of things that your school or church may already put on to help people like yourself. These could be dances or parties. Go with a group of friends that you are comfortable being outgoing with. If you begin to attend large activites such as the summer course you described, you begin to feel more comfortable with meeting people. You might also want to begin looking for a job where you have to talk to people. Since you are only 13, I would look into doing babysitting or dog-walking.
When you first meet people try to look your best. Make eye contact, reach out you hand for a hand shake. The hand should shake twice (i.e. go up about 2-3 times) and then let go. While this goes on say "Hi (or hello if addressing older people) my name is ______ nice to meet you." Often times they will say their own name in which case you want to repeat.
This may sound really dorky, but hey I met my bf this way. Have a great time meeting new friends!
love -Ariannekp
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