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Best mate worries.
19 F - Okay, so my best mate lives really far away (like 2 day drive) and I rarely see him. We usually write e-mail's every day and hardly ever break contact. Well the past couple of weeks we've been a bit slack. He has exams at university and I'm doing a course while also working. so i didn't hear from him and he didn't hear from me in a couple of weeks. 3 days ago he said that his mum is in hospital with heart problems and that he has big exams coming up and that he cant study cause he's looking after his little brother and sister while trying to find a new place to rent as their lease is up soon. he seemed really stressed and i've written him several e-mails since then but he hasn't replied. i dont know what to do! how do i reach him? am i right for worrying or do you think i'm being silly?
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Let me start off by saying that you seem like a fantastic friend and that you and your friend have my condolences. I think anyone who's ever had a friend they cared about would absolutely agree that you have every right to worry. So don't think you're being silly at all.
It's very difficult to be friends with someone who lives far away. You can love them just as much as if they were nearby, but you can't comfort them in the same way. At times the distance can be quite painful and the longing to be close to your friend can be overwhelming.
I would suggest that you continue to support him - call, email, text, visit whenever you can. At the moment, he may not be able to reciprocate, but when things calm down and get a little less hectic for him, he'll definitely remember and be thankful for all the support you gave him.
Hopefully his mother's health improves as well as his current situation. When the time comes, I would also suggest that you and he have a conversation and discuss making your friendship more of a priority - more conversations, more frequent get togethers, etc.
Sometimes to make a long distance relationship work - even if it's just a friendship - you have to schedule spending more time together. In the end though, it truly doesn't matter how far away your friend lives. As long as he continues to live in your heart, then he will be with you forever.
I sincerely hope this helps - please keep me updated. :)
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1. You are very right for worrying
2. Have you tried calling his cell and maybe offer some help if you have a free sumer break
3.Don't take him not answering personally he's probably not taking calls to give time to his stressed lifestyle
4. I used to live in England what city are you from..lol i live in america now. where are you from?
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