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I Want A Boyfriend
16/f
This is a fairly ridiculous question, but it`s legitimate so please bare with me. I want a boyfriend. The whole idea of enjoying someone`s company and being close gives me butterflies.
I try so hard to be everything a guy would want. I dress attractively everyday, I always wear make-up and do my hair. I'm confident and flirt accordingly. I get straight A`s - I don`t want to be all looks. I try to be friends with guys and nice to their friends. I have everything other girls do - and more! Why isn`t this happening for me?
I'm 5'8 and between 115-120 lbs, I exercise a lot and love competitive sports. I looove going to hockey/football games and really getting into it and talking to guys. At amusement parks, I`m always the first one onto the most daring and adventurous rides. Every chance I get, I go to dances and parties. Aren`t those good places to meet a guy?
This all sounds like ridiculous bragging, but I`m trying to prove (to you and myself) that I have what it takes to be liked by guys. I love laughing and making people laugh, also. I want someone to have fun with, to spoil and to care for. Sometimes this 'want' for a boyfriend gets so uncontrollable that it takes over my emotions. Sometimes I think maybe I`m just not deserving of a decent (or any) boyfriend.
I must be missing something - what could it be? It`s been three years since I`ve last had a boyfriend.. everytime a guy and I get close, there`s always some excuse and fades away. I`m young, I don`t want to miss out on all of that pointless (yet cute) `puppy love`.
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Woah, this sounds EXACTLY like me. Its kinda creepy...
But anyway I felt that way for a long time until I finally got sick of waiting and I stopped searching. I kept telling myself that I was on my own and I didn't need anyone else to make me happy. I didn't need anyone at all, and I could just live my life on my own. Although this idea doesn't sound very optimistic, it really does work. My friends envied me because I never let myself get caught up with the drama of guys. While they were sitting there getting their heart broken time and time again, I stayed out of it, and like I said, I was being envied for how strong I was.
And so I learned that its going to take a pretty special guy to break down my barrier. And well I found him. I kept up my barrier and he was absolutely relentess in knocking it down. He finally did and now I have an amazing boyfriend. And I know that if he broke up with me, I would be ok. Because I let myself come to believe that I don't need other people to be me. I can live life by myself and make the best of it. Believe me, I'm soo much happier now.
So basically, keep your head up and learn to not be so dependent on other people. If you this desperate for a boyfriend you really aren't ready for one yet. Just focus on YOUR life and what YOU'RE doing. The right one will find you someday.
Sorry for such a long answer, but your situation sounded so much like mine, and I knew how that felt.
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you definitely deserve a boyfriend, and i know you really, really want one, but maybe that special guy hasnt come along yet. try going to parties of your friends...you never know, some cute guy might think your really hot, that guy that you met at your cousin's friend's bbq! or something like that! Random places where you are around new people are good places to hunt. It could be that around your school the people know you so well that they all love you as a great friend....and for some reason don't really consider you as a girlfriend.....i dont know why, but maybe this is happening. I hope i was helpful and good luck. =)
-SlushPuppy
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welll. First you have to find a guy youre interested in, and try to get with him. You can't just go around looking for a random boyfriend, so dont stress.. it'll happen. If you're as attractive & as smart as you say, I'm shure you'll find a great guy soon enough..you just need to find the right one =] There's nothing wrong with you, so have fun while you can and dont let guys ruin your fun. Goodluck! =]
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a. guys dont really like makeup
b. maybe you need to open up more with them
c. there is probably some shy guy liking you out there but you just dont know it yet.
d. the point of WANTING a bf is not good, you need to find someone you actually like, the idea is not the whole point, try to find someone that you think you like them and maybe you guys might click ;)
hope it works out fine
♥kay
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