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life sucks
u answered my question before and i don't no if this is the inbox but i dont know where else to go.
um yea I'm seriously thinking about seeing a therapist but I'm still really nervous. But yea today wasn't that good of a day. Last night I got in a fight with my ex boyfriend so I was in a bad mood waking up. And then when I came into school someone came up to me and was like I heard you hooked up with "Bob" so are you planning on having sex with him this weekend. And I know you said to ignore those people but it just gets to me. And if I were to go to a therapist I don't think I could tell her about the sex stuff without feeling uncomfortable. You know?
If you honestly don't feel like replying to all of my replies you don't have to. I just liked your advice the best.=]
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Hi again. Yup you got the message into my inbox. :]
It's hard not to let people like that get to you (people who talk as well as ex's) but don't let them. More than anything else their really not worth gettin stressed over. As for what they said about Bob, people talk so obviously rumours have gone around about what you did and a lot of the guys probably think you'll be the same way with them now too. It's a dangerous circle to fall into becuase then all you ever seem to attract is the jerks and assholes but hang in there. :] As long as you stick it out and not fall back into the self destructiveness (if that's even a word) then you should be okay and it will pass and pretty soon they will all forget about it. When they see that their words are having no reactions with you, it's another way they will just eventually stop. Just give it time and hang in there. What was the argument about with your ex, if you don't mind me asking? With everything you have going on at the moment all I can say is try to put that on hold so you can deal with the other things first, you obviously have a lot of things on your shoulders to deal with at the moment.
Seriously, don't worry about seeing a therapist. The best thing about therapists is that if you don't like the one that you go to see you can go to a different one (unless it's a free one you're seeing I think) but generally therapists are there to listen to you and try to help you see things more clearly. It takes time though to put trust into a complete stranger especially when its a therapist so don't feel that you have to go there and right away tell them everything that's been going on. Start slowly, and from the beginning. Start with what's going on at home and what happen with your parents or even with your boyfriend. Go gradually. If he/she asks something you feel uncomfortable with then say you prefer not to go into that specific thing at the very moment, if thats how you feel about it. Don't feel like you have to say about the sexual stuff because you don't - give yourself and the therapist time and you'll find it easier and easier to talk to them and eventually you may tell them about it. Also, as far as I know therapists are not allowed to discuss anything you tell them with anyone so you should be safe on your parents not finding out about anything you tell the therapist but for reassurance you can ask them to be certain. Any ideas as to when you might be seeing one yet or are you still very nervous and undecided about it? I really hope you do go becuase it will certainly do you a lot of good. I'd hate to see someone so nice having to deal with everything thats going on all by yourself. Obviously I'll always be here to chat whenever you want, so you've a friend here too. :] Also, I don't mind at all replying to you I'm just sorry it took almost a week to reply. :( Next time I'll try not to keep you waiting for a reply so long - promise. =] Feel free to write though and let me know how things are and what's going on. As I said, you've a friend here if you ever need to chat about anything. Just remember to remind me who you are since these inbox messages don't say who's writing or anything so only way for me to know it's you is when you remind me. :P I certainly hope this week past has been a bit better for you but do let me know how things have been going with you. Take care. :]
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