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The Pill
I'm a teenager and I've been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months. I love him so much and he loves me. I think I'm ready to have sex, but there is no way I'd do it with just a condom. I'd be so scared it would break. I wouldn't be able to sleep or enjoy anything, yet I don't know how to get on the pill without either asking my mother which she would pass out because I'm "too young" or having to go to planned parenthood and getting a pelvic exam. Now I know when I'm older I need pelvic exams, but there isn't a need for one yet. I haven't had sex or anything and I'm not comfortable with a doctor I don't know down there on me. It took me a long time for even my boyfriend. I am not an easy girl and I have tried to wait as long as I can. I'm just afraid I won't be able to take it one day and not be prepared. So does anyone know how to get on it without having to go through either of those. Please help. Thanks Oh yeah I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16/m
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I'm sorry to tell you dear but next to no doctor, planned-parenthood or otherwise, will give you the pill without requiring a pelvic exam. In fact, you should have one! Every doctor would recommend for girls to have at least one prior, or just around the same time, that they choose to become sexually active.
It is simply something a mature sexual women needs to be comfortable doing.
If you are not comfortable seeing or talking to a doctor about this AND you are not comfortable with just a condom AND you worried about messing up taking the pill then you ARE NOT READY.
That has nothing to with your age. If a 30 year old told me the same things, I would tell her she isn't ready either.
Being in love, doesn't automatically make you ready for this.
Sex is risky. It just is. It always will be.
Even if you use a condom, and the pill, and plan B and a little Tibetan anti-fertility voodoo doll, there is still the possibility of something going wrong.
You need to accept that. You must be comfortable with taking that risk. You have to be comfortable taking care of your own body, even if that means seeing a doctor. If you canâ??t do that and still enjoy sex, then you are not ready to be having sex.
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First of all, you'll have to get a pelvic exam no matter WHERE you go, whether it's Planned Parenthood or a gynecologist. No doctor would put you on the Pill without giving you an exam first, because they have to make sure everything's "in the right place" and you don't have any issues. Even 14-year-olds can get cervical cancer, and even if they've never had sex. And anyway, the Pill isn't always right for everyone. Some people have issues that would cause the Pill to make you VERY sick.
Second of all, if you're 14 years old and you're ready to have sex, that's fine. But you're not going to get birth control without parental consent anywhere, probably. At my local Planned Parenthood, you have to be 16 without parental consent. Not to mention the fact that if your mother is going to have a problem with it, you probably don't want to go against her wishes, because you're going to get yourself in a hell of a lot of trouble, one way or another.
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I'm pretty sure, that you can't get it without your parents consent, since your only 14.
I don'tthink your ready. I mean 14? why do you want to grow up so fast? isn't that like against the law too? well, maybe thats 18. but, hes still older and should be responsible. and birth pills do sometimes fail. so what if you do end up pregnant? your boyfriend will be in jail, because im pretty sure its illegal, for you guys to do that.. and you'll have your whole intire life messed up never getting to be a kid again.
and you understand. i hope you learned a few things. trust me, you have your whole life to grow up, and do that stuff. your only a kid once.
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