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playing hard to get?
Ok this is the same person that asked that freakishly long question about this guy named drew.
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This might be kind of long too, but not as. Please help hahah!
But anyway, I finally told him how I felt, not that I was crying about him all night, since I didn't want to freak him out, but I did tell him I really liked him and all. I wasn't sure if I was bothering him, so I apologized for the randomness and if I was bothering him.
And he said hahah it's ok, don't worry about it. i'm just not interested in a relationship right now, but I do like being friends, so friends?
So I said that was fine, that I liked being friends too. I never saw him in school after that, since we [the seniors] were only in school for the 1st 20 minutes, before going to the auditorium for graduation practice [got to leave at 9:30 each day!].
But I saw him on Thursday, because after I graduated, I went up to the school to talk to some of my friends, since a lot of them are in band and chorus, who were part of the graduation ceremony. I went up w/ my best friend Sam and waited while he gave his robe back to the chorus teacher.
And who happens to show up, but Drew. I was a little embarrassed and all, so I looked away and pretended I was very interested in the opposite wall. Well, he actually came up to me and gave me a hug and said an excited hi. And then he jokingly made fun of me, because he's a senior and I'm a freshman now. So we laughed and then he went to turn his robe in.
Then Sam came out and Drew followed. Sam, being a little crazy, pushed me into Drew. So we were both like, whoa there hahah. But then he picked me up and gave me a spinning hug. [:D] And then me, Sam, and Drew talked for a little bit, and I had to leave to get my actual diploma in the cafeteria, so as me and Sam were leaving, Drew was saying goodbye, congratulations, and then he said he'd text me. Which I thought was great, because the last time we texted, way back in November, we texted for 3 days straight and almost went out, so I was pretty excited.
I didn't think he'd actually text me or anything, so when I got home, I put my purse, with my cell in it, on the kitchen table and went on the computer for a bit before going to bed. And it turned out, he actually did text me, saying hey. And I didn't realize until an hour later, 12 midnight. I didn't want to text back, in case he wasn't awake, so I went to bed.
So yesterday, we went to the local amusement park in Pittsburgh for the school picnic. I was walking around with Sam and he saw Drew. So he dragged me over there and we talked for a bit, and he hugged me again with another excited hi hahah. But his group was leaving, so that's all that happened and I didn't see him anymore that day. So when we were going home, Sam started texting him [Sam's a guy, in case I didn't clarify]. I'm not gonna write the whole convo, but first, Drew told him to tell me he said hi. And then he told Sam that he didn't know what to say to me, that he should've rode something with me. So Sam was like, yes, you should have, and Drew texted back that he was sorry. And I told Sam to text him back saying I said it was ok and maybe next time. So he texted back, yeah that'd be cool. But he had to go to bed, cause he had SATS this morning, so they stopped texting.
And that's about it, to this point.
Just one more side-note. I texted him a few times during the day yesterday at the park, but he ignored 2/3 of them. Although he ignored Sam for a while when he first texted him, but finally texted him back 1 1/2 hours later.
So what does this whole thing mean? Is he trying to show that he does like me-like me even though he's not ready for a relationship yet? Or is he just being extra friendly? I don't know, and Sam told me he found out from someone that Drew likes it when a girl plays hard to get. And if that's true, how do I go about doing that? Especially when I've already fallen this hard for him? And then, what if I do play hard to get, and he forgets about me? Ahh help!
Sorry for the length!!
Erin
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It sounds to me like maybe after having left it be for a while, he's reconsidering, and maybe checking out how much fun you can be without getting together -- not necessarily because he doesn't like you, but because a relationship is better if you could have fun as just-friends, too.
I'd say, rather than "playing hard-to-get", just try to stay casual for the moment. Make sure to hang out with other just-friends a lot, try to be the one who invites him to group get-togethers, and only text him as often as you would text a good (but not best) girl-friend.
Then, pay attention to how he reacts. This game is less about being "hard-to-get" and more about seeing if he'll come most of the distance, especially since he already knows you like him.
Joke, flirt, just don't be the one to get serious, and until it does really seem serious, do kind of shy away a bit and laugh it off.
Basically, be a flirty friend until he asks you out. After that, you can take a few minutes looking like you're thinking about it, but don't make him wait too long or he might get away again!
And if he never asks you out, you'll have a great friendship brewing. It'll probably ache something wicked if he starts going out with someone else, but nobody can ever take him away as a friend.
But it really sounds like he's reconsidering, so show him what a diva you are! Who knows, you might get a whole following in the process. ;)
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